So I decided to write letters to my son. He was three years old when I started the project. I bought a pack of bound notebooks and started writing every few weeks, whenever something happened I wanted him to remember. I also included lessons I wanted him to learn, spiritual wisdom I wanted to impart. I've used these journals to pass on some of our family's history, to communicate my thoughts about current events, to capture our spiritual legacy, to try to let him in on who his dad is.
Someday when he goes off to college or I go off to a nursing home or whenever the moment seems right, I'll wrap these notebooks and give them to him. That way he'll get to know a little more about me in my own handwriting.
Randall
When I was in seminary and struggling to support my daughter Candace and myself, I lamented over all the things we didn't have. I secretly fantasized about some far-off time when my ex-husband would either voluntarily pay the child support he owed or would be forced to pay all his back missing payments.
Once, when I was in the middle of an "oh, woe is me" moment, God spoke very clearly to me about the fact that I was limiting what he could do based on what a mere man was or wasn't able to do. I was putting more trust in my ex-husband's ability than in my Heavenly Father's supply.
I later became more intentional about tithing and allowed myself to spend money on things Candace and I needed with a stronger belief God would provide for our every need. Because I stopped waiting on my child's father and patiently waited for God, he continues to bless us—according to his riches in glory.
At another point in our life, Candace had a female teacher, female principal, female pastor, and single-parent female-headed household. While I liked having her exposed to these many "women can do it all" role models, I also wanted her to interact with some positive God-fearing males. I craved that balance in her life. I wanted her to hear about God's love and design for her life from someone with a deeper voice. And God has provided many such men to step in and meet that unique need in my child's life—and to meet the cry of this single mother's heart.
Cherise
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