I'm a 27-year-old single Christian male. I can count on one hand the number of dates I've had in my life. From my personal experience, here are my suggestions to women looking for places where eligible men (including eligible Christian men) outnumber women:
- Engineering schools. In spite of all efforts to encourage women to enter math- and science-related fields, guys easily still outnumber women in engineering schools. Fortunately, I went to a university where the overall gender ratio was about one to one, but within the engineering school, that certainly wasn't the case. Any social interaction at the engineering school favored women looking for men. For women who can tolerate a bit of geekiness (or who happen to be geeks themselves,) most engineers would make great husbands, being intelligent men working in a respectable career that pays reasonably well while allowing for a good family life.
- Military. Just when I thought the male-female ratio couldn't be worse than engineering school, I got commissioned into the US Navy. Not only that, I entered the submarine service, one of the few all-male communities left in the US military. It's almost like a convent for men. While some Navy men might enjoy a "good time" a little too much, there certainly are many fine Christian men in the ranks. Even if a woman chose not to enter the military herself, she might be pleasantly surprised should she move to a Navy town (especially a submarine port).
- Business school. I thought surely business school must have a large number of women. Um, no. The male-female ratio in business school was only marginally better than engineering school. So, for women interested in finding intelligent, ambitious men, I suggest going to business school. Be warned though! While men in business school generally have better social skills than engineers, they often lack the gentle, laid-back spirit of engineering geeks, and they often find themselves in jobs that require psychotic working hours and constant travel.
- Web forums and online dating. Basically, if it involves a computer, you usually can expect men to outnumber women. Web forums associated with a church or club are often dominated by men. These are often a great way to meet people and even arrange in-person events. As for online dating, profiles of men outnumber profiles of women for almost all dating services. There's no shortage of men online.
- Wherever I am. Sadly, I'm good at unintentionally finding places where men outnumber women. Follow me around, and you'll probably meet a lot of eligible guys and not a lot of women with whom to compete!
Chad
Where are the single Christian men? We're everywhere. We're men who love God, cherish people, and desire a relationship with a great woman. We're in the church; we're in the world. I think you find us perhaps more in the latter (though our hearts rest with the former). There are several reasons I believe men are in (supposed) short supply.
Remember that men crave adventure, danger, thrills, and risk. We desire to fight battles and win wars. Unfortunately, the church is vastly effeminate. It speaks of peace and love—it's happy, touchy, emotional, soft, safe, and womanly. We like those things, but not as a way of life. Those are the qualities we love in women, but we can't be fully immersed in them or our manhood is lost. There are few preachers who speak of battles, winning, conquering, overcoming, slaying dragons, rescuing princesses, and joining with other men in a fight for excellence. Instead of learning to embrace our masculine nature in godly pursuit, we're taught to become more feminine (subtly, not overtly). We can't find a fight in the church, so we leave. We are constantly encouraged to be gentle, meek, humble, tender. What about bold, confident, warrior-spirited? We still love God but we can find more fulfillment in the world. Is this right? Not necessarily. But I think it's true.
