When Mohler calls marriage the "ultimate priority God has called us to," I cringe. Not because I'm anti-marriage, but because I don't find backing for this in the Bible. I don't see the place where marriage is called a requirement. It's called a blessing many times, but then so is singleness. The only list of Christ-follower requirements I find in my Bible is in Micah 6:8—"He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God." These things, not marriage, should be our ultimate priorities.

So singleness as sin? No way! If the reasons for delaying marriage truly are selfishness, childishness, and a purposeful denying of God's will, as Mohler, Rainey, and Lepine assert, then those things are the sins—not the resulting singleness. And throwing around the s-word like that, especially toward a group of individuals who already sometimes feel devalued by the church, our families, and sometimes even ourselves, seems not only unscriptural but also irresponsible.

Yes, the institution of marriage has taken many hits in recent years and we who follow the One who created it should do all we can to uphold it. I share Mohler, Rainey, and Lepine's desire in this regard. I only wish that their comments about and to those of us who have yet to enter that institution had been made with an understanding of the many cultural shifts, demographic trends, and other intricacies affecting our lives and decisions—and with respect for those of us who are earnestly trying to navigate all of these in a God-honoring way.

Sure, some selfish or passive singles need a kick in the pants. Sure, we're all sinners—married or single. But we're also sons and daughters of the Most High God. It is with both truths in mind that I hope we all go forward toward our real main goal in life—doing our best to follow Christ in whatever stage of life he has us.


Read Albert Mohler's response to this article: Part 1 | Part 2

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