Maybe the real problem is when we try to hang on to that initial twitterpation—the soulmate fixation. Our culture teaches us that's what love is supposed to be. So we run around searching for eternal twitterpation, something we really can't maintain. I think God intended love to be more logical than that—a choice. We're commanded to love. If it wasn't a choice, I don't think we would have needed a command. If biblical love is a conscious decision, why are we searching for something we "fall" into? Because of my background, I don't know if I have the ability to "fall" in love. But I want to love someone. I want to choose to commit myself to someone who will commit himself to me—the way God commanded us to love each other.
Jamie
I believe there's one person God has designed perfectly and specifically for each person. This person isn't only one's perfect match at the time they meet, but God knows that even their purposes and destinies match. He knows the combination of these two individuals will produce exactly the kind of children he wants added to the world. However, so few people make being in the perfect will of God a priority. Instead, they walk down a road that winds on and off of God's most desired path for them. Along the way they meet and fall in love with people who are great for them, but not perfect for them. So they get married and have a great life, but only God knows how short of perfect it really is.
I believe when a person actually does meet his or her "soulmate," it's undeniable. I also think there's so much more involved than just enjoying life with someone special. God desires that each of us be "perfect, even as our Father in heaven is perfect." So if God is looking for each of us to be perfect, and has given us the tools to be so, he certainly would require a perfect union of two who are to become a perfect one in him.
We will reach perfection as we desire and seek God's perfect will. And as we desire and seek God's perfect will, he will surely send us that perfect one.
Joy
I'm not sure the term soulmates is accurate in a biblical sense. Actually, I think the whole concept of "soulmates" is worldly romantic baloney packaged as spiritually connected predestination.
I have yet to find a passage in the Bible that hints at or promises a soulmate. It's one thing to believe God will help you discern and choose a person who will complement your weaknesses and strengths in serving him. But it's something else altogether to believe God has chosen one person out of the whole planet that only you can marry and serve him with.
Two becoming one is the goal and a process. Adam and Eve were soulmates. Everyone after that has been by choice, convenience, family obligation, religious yoking, or some other reason. Yes, I understand divine providence is at work in some instances.
In the end, all women have souls. So, any one of them could be a "soulmate" for me in a logical sense. But, not every one could be a quality mate for me in an actual sense. There will be some women whose strengths, weaknesses, and personality types will enable them to blend with mine much easier. While meeting someone who matches up with you in many areas may feel so good that you can't ascribe it to anything but God, that doesn't mean God has predestined the relationship because he chose this person "just for you."
Instead, you show me two people who love each other in a godly way, trust each other, treat each other with respect, and accept each other truthfully, and I will show you two people who feel like their souls have mated.
Shawn
I do believe God has specifically chosen one person for me. I'm over 40 years old, and I've been in many romantic relationships. Looking back, I can see how they just weren't the men for me. I was in these relationships for various reasons, but none of these men were my soulmate, including my ex-husband. If I put God first in my life, I believe he'll guide me to meet and ultimately marry the man who's the best fit for me, my lifestyle, and my world (and for whom I'm the best fit).
LeRhonda
