Characteristics: Christ is called the “Prince of Peace.” Christ made lasting peace possible at the cross. Instead of delighting in division, bitterness, and strife, the spouse who is a peacemaker will make peace wherever and whenever possible. Making peace in marriage can be costly, just as it was for Christ. This spouse is willing to suffer by setting aside his rights and ego, and he seeks to make peace even when wronged.

Results in marriage: Nothing brings more blessing to a marriage than a spouse who is able to make peace quickly. He lacks willful hardheadedness and stubborn pride. Asking for and granting forgiveness comes quickly. He will give wise counsel to his family when strife occurs, thereby rendering an atmosphere of peace.

8. Perseverance: “Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 5:10)

Characteristics: This person sees trials in life as an opportunity to mature spiritually. Trials occur in every marriage – sometimes because of the actions of the couple, others due to external factors. But this person doesn’t give up or change, for he knows that “in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28). He faces trials in persecution believing that God has a plan and His plan will be accomplished.

Results in marriage: It is not easy to consistently apply God’s faith principles when going through any trial. It is even more difficult to suffer unjustly. Fortunate is the spouse who is married to a person who perseveres in applying God’s Word, especially in the tough times. That person will always direct the other to the sovereignty and grace of a loving God. He looks forward to seeing how God will use the trial in his family’s life to bring glory to Jesus Christ.

You may be thinking, “These spiritual thoughts are good, but what about the practical areas of marriage?” We caution, however, that these principles for spiritual maturity are practical. They form the foundation for a truly great marriage.

Most marriages take many twists and turns over the years – some good and some bad. In the bad times, the best practical hope a spouse can have is that his or her mate would not act fleshly, but rather that he or she would respond spiritually, recalling and returning to these faith principles for God’s power.

Remember the comfort and commendation of a life by faith found in Hebrews 11:1–2: “Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.” There is no greater practical issue in a marriage than the spiritual maturity of the husband and wife.