I am 31 and on my second marriage. My first one was bad (so I thought) - hew was abusive, I ended up divorcing and remarried - and got myself into a WORSE situation. I mean, I love him more then I have ever loved any man, but we clash and he has a horrible temper. But I think my worse issue is he is so secretive when it comes to his thoughts, his past, his feelings. Our communication level is HORRIBLE. He gets mad at me for saying whats really TRUTHFULLY on my mind, I get mad because he clams up. Im going to try to go by this article and hang in there....hopefully I can be one of those 5 year success stories.