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About Mitali Perkins

Mitali Perkins is the author of Ambassador Families: Equipping Your Kids to Engage Popular Culture (Brazos Press). She studied Political Science at Stanford University and Public Policy at U.C. Berkeley, and has written for Christianity Today, Discipleship Journal, Campus Life, With, Prism, War Cry, U.S. Catholic, and other periodicals. Mitali also writes fiction for young readers, including Monsoon Summer (Random House), The Not-So-Star-Spangled Life of Sunita Sen (Little Brown), Rickshaw Girl (Charlesbridge), and the First Daughter books (Dutton). She lives in Massachusetts with her husband and twin sons.

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  • Wednesday, April 2, 2008
    Teens, Tunes, and Traveling Together
    Should I let my daughter download that song on iTunes? I can't understand a word from start to finish. What about that hip-hop radio station he loves? Should I ban it? 

    When parents ask questions like these, I can't offer definitive answers. So much depends on the particular teen and the state of the heart. But two lessons from my past have encouraged me to venture boldly with my sons into the realm of their generation’s music. 

    The first is not to fear. God already knows what’s out there, and is creative enough to use it in the divine pursuit of the human soul.

    During my high school years, I memorized lyrics by musicians like the Beatles, Cat Stevens, the Who, and of course, the Rolling Stones. Later, while studying overseas in Europe, in the throes of a search for spiritual truth, I visited the site in Moscow where the Czar and his relatives had been brutally murdered. I’d been wrestling with the question of human suffering, but didn’t consider that a diabolical, personal enemy might be playing a significant role behind the scenes.

    I wandered through the opulent galleries of the Hermitage in St. Petersburg, replete with art commandeered from the Hitler and the Nazis. Portrait after painting after mural depicted the suffering of Christ. One particular piece caught my eye — a rendition of Jesus agonizing in a garden. Instantly, the words to a Rolling Stones’ song sang through my mind: “I was around when Jesus Christ had his moments of doubt and pain. Killed the Czar and his ministers; Anastasia screamed in vain.” Sympathy for the Devil, the song was titled. 

    Suddenly, I was electrified by the possible existence of an evil tempter who delighted in human suffering — and especially in the suffering of one particular Man. While this example may sound trivial in the re-telling, I know that God was powerful enough to use Mick Jagger’s song in my journey of faith. The same can happen with today's music and this generation.

    The second lesson is that regular parental companionship is crucial.

    When I was about twelve, I was belting out a hit song in the shower: “Having my ba-a-aby. I’m a woman in love and I love what’s going through me. Having my ba-a-aby. What a lovely way to say how much you love me.” Paul Anka’s song was playing non-stop on the radio and the catchy tune engraved the words in my mind.

    Leaving the bathroom, I overheard my parents talking (in Bengali, my mother tongue):

    “What is this ‘having my baby’ song?”

    “Oh my goodness. Do you think she knows about what she is singing?”

    Mortified, I realized how the words of the song had sounded to my parents’ ears. I wasn’t having anybody’s baby, for goodness’ sake. Why, then, was I singing about it at the top of my lungs? Thanks to the magic of listening through my parent’s ears, I was confronted with the absurdity of one particular song’s lyrics.

    As we accompany our children into the world of music, everybody's hearing is sharpened. Our presence in listening to their generation's music, perhaps even more than our opinions, provides clarity in their process of discernment. This means reading the lyrics on CD jackets, looking them up on the internet, and tuning into their radio station in the car -- even when they're not around. And talking about it.

    Music is powerful, as Martin Luther noted:

    “For whether you wish to comfort the sad, terrify the happy, encourage the despairing, humble the proud, calm the passionate, or appease those full of hate — and who could number all these masters of the human heart, namely, the emotions, inclinations, and affections that impel men to evil or good? — what more effective means than music could you find?”

    So should you ban that radio station? I have no idea. But I can encourage you not to fear the unknown, because God can use all things for good purpose. I can also tell you to travel with your teen as much as possible into pop culture. Where two or more are gathered in Jesus' name, He promises his company, too.  

    And who knows? You might even find yourself belting out some catchy new tune in the shower. A word of warning, though: once you start calling your wife "shorty" or "boo," you've gone too far. Your exasperated teen will be forced to rebel by downloading the Best of Bach.
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  • Senator Obama's recent speech about race was an Emperor's New Clothes moment for our nation. A lot of Americans had been feeling pretty darn good about our progress in racial reconciliation, embodied by our first viable biracial presidential candidate. But this speech and the split reaction to it revealed the true condition of race relations in America: generally, white people still don't get how black people see things, as Nick Kristof eloquently argues

    That is, if we're over twenty-five or so. 

    Mr. Kristof's thesis might not hold as true for young Americans. Teens and twenty-somethings think and talk about race so differently that it's almost as if our country's divided by age instead of race. Granted, I live in Boston, which likes to think of itself as this society's hub but might actually be a strange little island unto itself. But tune in to the humor about race in youth culture, where the pain is processed in a raw, real way, proving perhaps that laughter can be good medicine. Meanwhile the majority in my generation secretly wonder if it isn't time to move "beyond the issue," while many older minorities can never think of racism is a joke. 

    Senator Obama tapped into those views when he told us earlier in the campaign that there's "no black America and no white America, only the United States of America." Most people my age seemed to like that. But in this recent speech, the Senator told the truth: there are still two ways of viewing history in the past and history in the making.


    Barack Obama with his maternal grandparents
    Photo courtesy of the Munoz Family via Creative Commons

    The pivotal moment in the speech was when he talked about his grandmother, Madelyn Dunham, pictured above, who is still alive and living in Hawaii:

    [She is] a woman who helped raise me, a woman who sacrificed again and again for me, a woman who loves me as much as she loves anything in this world, but a woman who once confessed her fear of black men who passed by her on the street, and who on more than one occasion has uttered racial or ethnic stereotypes that made me cringe.

    In his book Dreams From My Father, he also told of his paternal grandfather who "didn't want the Obama blood sullied by a white woman." Why not quote them equally? Because the heart of the speech was to show that he gets how middle-aged and older blacks see things. 

    Ending with a story about a twenty-three year old white woman and an older black man coming together around his campaign, Senator Obama spoke to young people, repeating his hope that one day we might indeed move "beyond racism." But, as he reminded the whole nation, that day is not here yet. With new polls showing him falling behind, taking that risk could prove costly. Naming the naked Emperor makes an unseeing crowd feel foolish, and typically we take it out on the messenger.

    Thankfully, a new generation is coming of age, my teens among them, so maybe the Senator's right. The phrase "racial reconciliation" might someday move from oxymoronic to anachronistic. This century, I pray our churches speed the process instead of hindering it.

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    Mitali Perkins (mitaliperkins.com) is the author of two novels for teens about a candidate’s daughter, First Daughter: Extreme American Makeover and First Daughter: White House Rules (Dutton). Her main character, Sameera Righton, described by Publishers Weekly as “an intelligent, witty and prepossessed heroine,” is keeping track of the hype around the real First Kid wannabes at www.sparrowblog.com. To learn more about the books, visit firstdaughterbooks.com. 

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  • Saturday, March 22, 2008
    Take Your Teen To Thailand ... Sort Of
    If you live in Los Angeles, Kansas, Missouri, Pennsylvania, Ohio, Indiana, or Kentucky,  consider yourself blessed. You and your teens have a shot at catching the amazing Christian Communications Institute Thai dance and drama troupe in action, a ministry that owes a debt to one-time Broadway star Joan Eubank.

    Here's their schedule:

    March 26  First Presbyterian Church, 10544 Downey Av. Downey, CA 562-861-6752
    March 27  Good Shepherd Presbyterian Church,   Los Alamitos, CA   562-493-2553
    March 28  First Presbyterian Church, 11832 Euclid, Garden Grove, CA 714-534-2269
    March 29  First Thai Presbyterian Church, 1047 N Barranca, Covina CA 626-858-5288
    March 30  Knox Presbyterian Church, 225 S. Hill Av. Pasadena, CA  626-449-2144
    March 31  First Presbyterian Church, 21 Constance, Santa Barbara CA 805-687-0754
    April 1-2  Community Presbyterian Church,  Lake Arrowhead, CA  909-336-1502
    April 5  Knox Presbyterian Church, 9595 95th St. Overland Park KS  913-888-7775
    April 6  Second Presbyterian Church, 318 E. 55th St. Kansas City MO 816-363-1300
    April 7  Knox Presbyterian Church, 9595 95th St. Overland Park KS  913-888-7775
    April 8  Center Grove Pres. 2340 So. S R 135, Greenwood IN 317-535-9007
    April 9  Owen County Public Library, Spencer, IN  812-829-3392
    April 10  First Presbyterian Church,  221 E. 6th St.  Bloomington, IN   812-332-1514
    April 11  First Baptist Church, 8600 N. College Av. Indianapolis, 317-846-5821
    April 12  Community Christian, North Canton, OH   330-499-5458
    April 13  Tower Presbyterian Church, 248 S. Broad St. Grove City, PA 724-458-7260
    April 14  First Presbyterian Church,  State College, PA   814-342-0812
    April 16-17  Christian Community Church, Columbus, OH  614-538-1050
    April 18  Covenant Presbyterian Church, 2070 Ridgecliff, Columbus OH 614-451-6677
    April 19  First Friends Church/Living Fountains, 5455 Market, Canton, OH 330-966-2800
    April 20  Christ Presbyterian Church, 530 Tuscarawas, Canton, OH  330-456-8113
    April 21  Grace UCC, 13275 Cleveland Av.  Uniontown, OH  330-699-3255
    April  22  First Christian Church  211 S. Walnut, Crawfordsville IN  765-362-4812
    April 23  Presbyterian Church USA, 100 Witherspoon, Louisville KY   888-728-7228


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  • Thursday, February 28, 2008
    Unique To Books: Cogency and Privacy
    The argument for us glass-half-full types is that literacy isn't tanking at all. No, these days stories are morphing away from the printed page and emerging from other vessels like screens, or entering our souls through the ear rather than the eye. And it's not just teens -- I do more and more of my reading online and my consumption of podcasts is rising exponentially. We're reading, I scoff at the doomsayers, just differently, that's all.

    But then I left my computer for ten days and discovered the truth of Howard Gardner's two sad postscripts in an otherwise upbeat take on literacy:

    Two aspects of the traditional book may be in jeopardy, however. One is the author's capacity to lay out a complex argument, which requires the reader to study and reread, following a circuitous course of reasoning. The Web's speedy browsing may make it difficult for digital natives to master Kant's "Critique of Pure Reason" (not that it was ever easy). The other is the book's special genius for allowing readers to enter a private world for hours or even days at a time. Nowadays young people seem to have a compulsion to stay in touch with one another all the time; one of the dividends of book reading may fade away.

    The latter gift of extended privacy, which I think comes more from fiction while the gift of cogency from non-fiction, is exactly what I enjoyed during my recent reading extravaganza -- each novel was a journey to another place and time, vacations within a vacation, solitude my soul relished even while enjoying time with family. 

    So now I'm wondering how my digitally native sons are losing out. Will their click-here-and-there minds lose the capacity to understand long, complex arguments? Will their facebooked souls know what to do with extended solitude? Or in the future will those particular skills become as anachronistic for young adults as classical rhetoric or knightly chivalry? And how will this literacy shift affect their reading of the Bible -- will they manage to grasp Paul's cogent arguments in the Book of Romans, for example, or take the solitude they need to meditate on the Psalms? 

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  • Monday, February 4, 2008
    Don't Know How You'll Vote?
    This election, geeks are jamming the web with tools to inform us about the candidates and their positions. Five websites in particular can help even the most undecided voter make a choice. These are nonpartisan resources, and user-friendly for teens and adults alike.

    Expert Voter (www.expertvoter.org): Provides a handy-dandy one page matrix of clips with the candidates sharing views on Iraq, immigration, energy, nuclear
proliferation, healthcare, education, social
security, taxes, and campaign 
reform.

    Fact Check (www.factcheck.org): Monitors the truth of what is said by major U.S. political players in the form of TV ads, debates, speeches, interviews, and news releases.

    Match-O-Matic (http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/Vote2008/page?id=3623346): Developed by ABC and USA Today, this interactive site quizzes you on your views to see how you match up on the hot issues with the candidates.

    Ask Your Lawmaker (http://www.askyourlawmaker.com/): Users submit questions and vote on them, and then journalists track down lawmakers in Congress and on the campaign trail to get those questions answered. 

    Vote Smart (http://www.vote-smart.org/):  Volunteer citizens provide biographical information, voting records, issue positions, interest group ratings, public statements, and campaign finance information so you can find out who your candidates are really representing.

    With a wealth of information a point and click away, and computers in homes, offices, and in almost every public library, American voters have more power than ever before.

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    Mitali Perkins (mitaliperkins.com) is the author of two novels for teens about a candidate’s daughter, First Daughter: Extreme American Makeover and First Daughter: White House Rules (Dutton). Her main character, Sameera Righton, described by Publishers Weekly  as “an intelligent, witty and prepossessed heroine, is keeping track of the hype around the REAL First Kid wannabes at www.sparrowblog.com. To learn more about the books, visit firstdaughterbooks.com.

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