A Man with a Toothache cannot.....
Dan MillerDan is the author of the New York Times best-selling 48 Days To The Work You Love , No More Dreaded Mondays and Wisdom meets Passion. He has been a guest on CBS' 'The Early Show,' MSNBC's 'Hardball with Chris Mathews,' Moody MidDay Connection, and the Dave Ramsey Show. Dan has spoken at the White House Christian Fellowship, and is in high demand at national conferences on aging and changes in the workplace, and at universities and churches. Over 130,000 people have subscribed to his weekly newsletter, his 48 Days Podcast consistently ranks in the top 3 under Careers on iTunes, and the 48Days.net business community is viewed as an example around the world for those seeking to find – or create – work they love. Committed to personal priorities, Dan and his wife Joanne have celebrated their 45th anniversary and have 3 world-changing children and 12 amazing grandchildren.
- 2013 May 21
Is a “toothache” clouding your bigger picture of success and accomplishment?
Shakespeare once stated, “A man with a toothache cannot be in love,” meaning simply that the attention demanded by the toothache doesn’t allow that person to notice anything other than his pain. In working with people going through job change, I often find Shakespeare's principle to be confirmed. I see grown men ignoring their wives, hiding out to avoid seeing their friends, watching too much TV and eating foods that blunt their minds. I see women embarrassed about yet another layoff stop going to church, spend money they do not have, read romance novels rather than inspirational material, and snap at their kids when asked an innocent question. The “pain” of the job loss seems to mask the health, vitality and success they have in other life areas.
Yes, a crisis will scream for our undivided attention. However, diverting your focus may in fact be part of the solution. A couple of years ago I worked with a young man who had just lost $3.2 million in a business deal. He was totally in the tank financially and in his career. But rather than fretting about that I prescribed that he would go to the YMCA each morning for 2 hours. His intense focus there initiated the vitality and creativity that allowed him to quickly spring back to success financially as well.
Going through an unexpected or unwelcome change in your life provides a great opportunity to take a fresh look at your success in other areas. Make additional deposits of success in your physical well-being. The energy and creativity that can come from a sharp mind and body can generate the very ideas you need at this time. Organize a pot-luck with a group of your friends – you’ll be surprised how many of them are going through a similar experience and providing one dish will cost you no more than eating your own meal. Pick up a great book to read. If you read only 10 minutes a day you can read a new book a month – and that can transform your insight and preparation for new options. Stay connected spiritually. You’ll realize that in the scope of eternity, this event is probably a tiny spot on the timeline.
From the Bible: (Think a broken tooth doesn’t cripple you?)
“Break the teeth in their mouths, O God: tear out, O Lord, the fangs of the lions! Let them vanish like water that flows away: when they draw the bow, let their arrows be blunted. Like a slug melting away as it moves along, like a stillborn child, may they not see the sun.” Psalm 58: 6-8 (NIV)
Direction for Today:
What is the toothache in your life that is demanding your undivided attention? How can you continue being “successful” in other areas of your life anyway?