If your pastor is failing in these areas it is definitely time to consider leaving.

2. The Pastor's Family Is Out Of Control.

Paul taught that if a man can't lead and oversee his own family then he has no business trying to pastor a church:"He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of fullrespect" (1 Timothy 3:4).

3. There Are Fights And Dissension In The Church.

1 Corinthians 3:1-3 sounds like your church: "Brothers and sisters, I could not address you as people who live by the Spirit but as people who are still worldly—mere infants in Christ…. For since there is jealousy and quarreling among you, are you not worldly? Are you not acting like mere humans?"

4. The Pastor Must Teach Well And Communicate Sound Biblical Doctrines And Truths

Be careful about pastors who confuse Biblical truth with his personal convictions.

Paul was deeply concerned that the pastor be able to teach and teach the Bible well:"Now the overseer is to be able to teach …" (1 Timothy 3:2).

"Brothers and sisters, I could not address you as people who live by the Spirit but as people who are still worldly—mere infants in Christ.I gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not yet ready for it. Indeed, you are still not ready. You are still worldly" (1 Corinthians 3:1-3).

"You must teach what is accordance with sound doctrine" (Titus 2:1).

5. The Singing And Worship Time Should Lead Into "The Throne Room" Of Heaven.

"Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts" (Colossians 3:16).

6. You Have Decided That Finding The Right Church Is Worth More Than Losing The Church Relationships That You Presently Enjoy (as long as you are committed to investing your life with Christian brothers and sisters in your new church home).

"Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching" (Hebrews 10:25).

7. You've Decided Not To Search For The Perfect Church. That Church Does Not Exist. A Church Can Have Problems And Still Be A "Great Church."

"I plead with Euodia and I plead with Syntyche to be of the same mind in the Lord. Yes, and I ask you, my true companion, help these women since they have contended at my side in the cause of the gospel, along with Clement and the rest of my co-workers, whose names are in the book of life" (Philippians 4:2-3).

I am sorry for what you are enduring in church right now. I will pray for your dysfunctional church to get well. I will also pray for you and your family to have great success in your search the God has in store for you and your family.

Please let me know how it all turns out.

Love, Roger

Ask RogerDr. Roger Barrier retired as senior teaching pastor from Casas Church in Tucson, Arizona. In addition to being an author and sought-after conference speaker, Roger has mentored or taught thousands of pastors, missionaries, and Christian leaders worldwide. Casas Church, where Roger served throughout his thirty-five-year career, is a megachurch known for a well-integrated, multi-generational ministry. The value of including new generations is deeply ingrained throughout Casas to help the church move strongly right through the twenty-first century and beyond. Dr. Barrier holds degrees from Baylor University, Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and Golden Gate Seminary in Greek, religion, theology, and pastoral care. His popular book, Listening to the Voice of God, published by Bethany House, is in its second printing and is available in Thai and Portuguese. His latest work is, Got Guts? Get Godly! Pray the Prayer God Guarantees to Answer, from Xulon Press. Roger can be found blogging at Preach It, Teach It, the pastoral teaching site founded with his wife, Dr. Julie Barrier.

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