So anything that hinders or discourages women from fulfilling their God-given calling to be bearers and nurturers of life furthers Satan’s efforts . . . The Christian world has been unwittingly influenced by this way of thinking [secular feminism], leading to the legitimization and promotion of such practices as contraception, sterilization, and “family planning.” As a result, unwittingly, millions of Christian women and couples have helped to further Satan’s attempts to limit human reproduction and thereby destroy life.16

Ironically, although DeMoss does have some good things to say on other topics in this book, she falls into her own error by doing exactly what her mother Eve did, namely, adding to God’s Word by declaring something that God has not said.

Furthermore, she quotes at length from Mary Pride, a homeschooling proponent and overreacting former feminist, who wrote in her book The Way Home: Beyond Feminism, Back to Reality, “Family planning is the mother of abortion . . . Abortion is first of all a heart attitude. ‘Me first.’ ‘My career first.’ ‘My reputation first.’ ‘My convenience first.’ ‘My financial plans first.’ And these exact same choices are what family planning, which the churches have endorsed for three decades, is all about.”17

Obviously, the self-centeredness of pride is something that Christians are to repent of, but the generalized character attacks by some—that women who use any form of birth control are working in concert with Satan and motivated solely by pride—go way too far.

Most certainly there are sinful people who use birth control for a variety of unbiblical reasons, including greed (they want to make as much money as possible without the responsibilities or costs of childbearing); selfishness (they have no desire to undertake the work involved in lovingly raising a child); an unbiblical view of children as a burden instead of a blessing; and an irresponsible lifestyle (they refuse to grow up and assume adult responsibilities). However, there are also a host of valid reasons why some godly people use birth control, such as working on a very troubled marriage in need of attention or dealing with serious health troubles, like a friend of mine who is taking birth control while battling cancer.

There are also many practical reasons why a Christian couple would choose not to use birth control. Sadly, some couples using birth control wait too long to begin their family and, as a result, suffer great complications. Infertility and miscarriage are common complications, especially as a woman gets older. Women are most fertile between the ages of eighteen and twenty-five. Fertility begins a slow decline at age twenty-five and speeds up dramatically at thirty-five.18

To compensate for the age factor, in vitro fertilization (IVF) has become increasingly popular. According to one report, “IVF accounts for over 90 percent of late-in-life pregnancies and can cost anywhere from $10,000–$100,000.”19 The average cost of one IVF cycle in the United States is $12,400.20

Furthermore, the statistics indicate that the older a woman is when (and if) she becomes pregnant, the greater the odds that she will suffer medical complications, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, miscarriage, and stillbirth,21 and her child will have increased odds for birth defects and low birth weight. If she does give birth, she will be far more exhausted as a mom because her energy levels drop as she ages.22

 Therefore, the woman who assumes she can simply postpone her childbearing in an effort to finish her education, establish her career, or pursue her travel goals may in fact be wasting her most fertile years. Instead, it may be wise not to wait to attempt motherhood by using birth control but rather to make it a priority, as God does in Scripture. Nonetheless, to declare that anyone who uses birth control is a selfish feminist working in concert with Satan is ludicrous. To illustrate this folly, I want to dispel the groundless arguments promulgated against any form of birth control.