Affair-Proof Your Marriage with Companionship
Today I want to give you the second way to affair-proof your marriage. And that is by being a companion to your spouse, spending time together just enjoying each other's company.
Back in Song of Solomon 7 we read this in verses 10-13,
I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me. Come, my beloved, let us go forth to the field; let us lodge in the villages. Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine has budded, whether the grape blossoms are open, and the pomegranates are in bloom. There I will give you my love. The mandrakes give off a fragrance, and at our gates are pleasant fruits, all manner, new and old, which I have laid up for you, my beloved.
Notice that Solomon and his bride just hung out together. It was a vital part of their relationship. And so must it be for any thriving marriage.
If you have drifted apart, I suggest you each make a list of things you like to do, or things that you might like to try. It could be anything from antique hunting, going to garage sales, taking walks, bicycling, fishing, going to museums, watching football, shopping, gardening, snorkeling, reading, sky diving, cooking, hiking, puzzles, photography, whatever.
Once you have made your lists, compare them and see where things overlap. Then find two or three things, and endeavor to do those things together. Have fun together.
Set time apart to do at least one activity together every couple of weeks. If you have kids, get a babysitter so it is just the two of you. It will be the best gift you could give your children.
If you do not do things together, you will find yourselves drifting apart.
The Ten Commandments for Marriage
Some of the greatest marriage advice of all time comes from an unlikely source: the Ten Commandments, which were actually wedding vows for God’s people. God was saying, “If you want a long-term relationship with Me that’s healthy and growing, here’s what needs to happen.” In The Ten Commandments for Marriage, Bayless Conley unpacks how the Ten Commandments are actually a road map to a strong and vibrant marriage. They’re God’s wise counsel for you today, whether you’re married or plan to be! So please request your copy of The Ten Commandments for Marriagewhen you give today. And thank you for giving to impact more lives and marriages through Answers!