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<< From His Heart, by Pastor Jeff Schreve

From His Heart - Week of September 13

  • 2013 Sep 13
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The Problem With Forgiveness

"Then Peter came and said to Him, 'Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him?  Up to seven times?' and Jesus said to him, 'I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.'"  Matthew 18:21-22

Let's face it, forgiving those who offend us is not an easy thing to do.  When we feel that we have been used, abused and unjustly treated, the human inclination is to desire revenge.  When someone hurts us or someone we love, we naturally want to hurt that person back.  It's true for me, for you, for everyone.      
 
Peter knew about this inclination, and he asked the Lord about the limits of forgiveness.  No doubt, Peter thought he was being quite magnanimous when he said, "Up to seven times?"  Surely, he expected Jesus to applaud his graciousness.  After all, the rabbis taught that you only had to forgive three times.  But, Jesus didn't applaud Peter.  Instead, He burst his bubble and presented him with the challenge of unlimited forgiveness. (Seventy times seven was His way of saying there is no cap on forgiving your brother.) 
 
Furthermore, Jesus added to this subject by saying these startling words, "But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done" (Matt. 6:15 GNB).  Whoa!  Talk about a heavy statement.  If you don't forgive, you cut yourself off from God's forgiveness. 
 
HOW CAN YOU FORGIVE?   
 
If forgiveness is this critical, and it is, then how can you and I forgive when someone intentionally (or unintentionally) does something that hurts us deeply?  Let me offer some encouragements to help you forgive that person (or persons) who did you wrong and caused you pain. 
 
1.  Focus on your own forgiveness.  Matthew 18:23-35 is a great parable that speaks of the need to forgive from the heart.  In that parable, Jesus tells of a servant who owed his master 10,000 talents, an incredible sum of money that could never be repaid.  We are that servant.  We owe a sin debt to God that we could never repay, but Jesus paid it for us when He died on the cross.  As you and I focus on the awe of our own undeserved forgiveness, it helps us to forgive others who have really done very little to hurt us, comparatively speaking.         
 
2.  Exercise faith.  If you wait until you feel forgiving toward that one who lied about you, betrayed you, abused you, or stabbed you in the back, you may never forgive.  Obeying God's clear command to forgive is not dependent on feelings.  It is dependent on faith.  By faith, forgive that one who hurt you, release that one from the natural inclination for revenge and retribution.  Let go of the offense and the "pound of flesh" due you.  Give that offender over to the Lord, and let Him deal with that person as He sees fit.  Vengeance is His, and He will repay.      
 
3.  Be good to yourself.  Newsflash: Holding a grudge against someone who hurt you doesn't hurt that person, it only hurts you.  A bitter, unforgiving spirit does not punish the person who offended you, it punishes you and those whom you love.  It's like drinking poison, hoping the other person will die.  Listen, be good to yourself.  Put down the bottle of poison and release the offender from the jail of your heart.  By not forgiving others, you shut off the flow of God's love and grace in your life ... but forgiveness brings it back.    
 
4.  Be a blessing to others.  Paul exhorted Philemon to forgive his thieving, runaway slave, Onesimus.  Paul said if Philemon would forgive, it would refresh Paul's own heart in Christ (in addition to Philemon's).  Forgiveness is a God thing that always brings with it the sweet aroma of the knowledge of Jesus, the ultimate forgiver.  As Mark Twain so aptly said, "Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."  Has someone crushed you?  Do the divine thing and forgive them.  If you do, the sweet fragrance of forgiveness will bless God, bless you, and bless others.

 

Love,
Pastor Jeff Schreve
From His Heart Ministries
www.fromhisheart.org

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Jeff Schreve is Senior Pastor of First Baptist Church in Texarkana, Texas. He and his wife Debbie have been married for over 20 years and are blessed with three wonderful girls. Jeff began From His Heart Ministries, a radio and television ministry, in January of 2005. This ministry is completely listener/viewer supported. It continues only through the faithful and generous gifts of people like you. Pastor Jeff takes no salary from this ministry. All gifts go to further the broadcast.

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