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AAA Club of Marriage - Girlfriends in God - February 12, 2014

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February 12, 2014
AAA Club of Marriage
Sharon Jaynes

(In honor of Valentine’s Day, Sharon’s February devotions will focus on marriage. If you are not married, these devotions will apply to you in other areas of your life. Keep reading!)

Today’s Truth

And let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband—that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly (Ephesians 5:33, Amplified).

Friend to Friend

Are you a member of the Triple A Club of Marriage? You didn’t know there was such a thing?  Well, there’s not an official one that you can call if your marriage breaks down, but I have one that I keep in the back of my mind. It stands for adoration, admiration, and appreciation. Did you know that big tough man of yours longs to be admired? He desires for someone to think he’s brave and brilliant, loving and logical, tough and tender, handsome and humorous, masculine and magical.That’s the stuff of your man’s dreams.   

What does it mean to adore your husband? Basically, it means to love him with all your heart…and let him know about it. Someone once said, “I like not only to be loved, but to be told I am loved.”  

Do you want to see your husband’s face light up like a full moon? Tell him you are amazed that he knows how to ________, or that you are impressed by his _______, then sit back and watch him glow.

When the TV cameras pan the sidelines of a college football game, my heart always melts in a pool of butter when a young man waves his hand and says those precious two words: “Hi Mom.”  It’s almost like he’s saying, “Look at me! Look at me!” The truth is men want to be admired by the woman of their dreams. It starts with Mom, and then continues with the Misses.

Where does your husband go for adoration, admiration and appreciation? He goes somewhere.  All men do.

Does he go to work in hopes of hearing “job well done”?

Does he go to the ball field in hopes of hearing “way to go man”? 

Does he go back home to his mother to hear “I’m so proud of you son”?

Does he work late in hopes of a few compliments from the gals in the office?

Does he feast on compliments from patients or clients?

Does he hang out at the gym flexing and building his biceps? 

Tell me, where does your man go to be admired?

Dr. Willard Harley, in his book, His Needs, Her Needs, says,

When a woman tells a man she thinks he’s wonderful, that inspires him to achieve more. He sees himself as capable of handling new responsibilities and perfecting skills far above those of his present level. That inspiration helps him prepare for the responsibilities of life. Admiration not only motivates, it also rewards the husband’s existing achievements. When she tells him that she appreciates him for what he has done, it gives him more satisfaction than he receives from his paycheck. A woman needs to appreciate her husband for what he already is, not for what he could become, if he lived up to her standards. 

For some men–those with fragile self-images–admiration also helps them believe in themselves.  Without it these men seem inherently more defensive about their shortcomings….While criticism causes men to become defensive, admiration energizes and motivates them.  A man expects–and needs his wife to be his most enthusiastic fan. He draws confidence from her support and can usually achieve far more with her.

One of the most important sentences in my book, The Power of a Woman’s Words is this: “Your words become the mirror in which other people see themselves.” And that is true for your husband. Your words become the mirror in which he sees himself.

So if he’s looking sort of glum lately, maybe you need to renew your membership into the AAA Club of marriage and try a little adoration, admiration and appreciation around your home. 

And if you are one of my unmarried GiG friends, think of ways you can polish the mirror that you hold up with your words to your friends, family, and co-workers today.

Let’s Pray

Married GiG
Dear Lord, I pray that I will be my husband’s biggest fan. Please help me restrain my critical tongue. Help me to see him as You see Him…a child of the King. I do so love my husband; help me to make sure that he knows just how much.

In Jesus’ Name,


Single GiG
Dear Lord, Help me to use my words to speak life into those around me today. Help me to build others up and point them to the truth that he or she is a co-image-bearer of God who is fearfully and wonderfully made. Show me someone who needs a word of encouragement…a verbal hug.

In Jesus’ Name,


Now It’s Your Turn

If you have been withholding admiring words from your husband, it may feel strange to begin giving them. First and foremost, be authentic–be real. If you contrive admiring words, he will be able to tell. Start with one compliment or word of appreciation. It may be as simple as saying “thank you.” Soon the admiration will begin to flow…hopefully both ways. Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Place an “I love you” sign in a public place. (I put a sign outside of my husband’s office window to surprise him on Valentine’s Day. The fact that all his patients saw it was an extra boost!)
  • Write him a love letter.
  • Write an acrostic from A-Z of reasons you adore, admire, and appreciate him.
  • Leave an “I love you” message on his voice mail.
  • Write him a thank-you note for something specific he did for you.

More from the Girlfriends

Are you ready to be bold and stoke the flames of love and passion in your marriage? How would you like to make your husband fall in love with you all over again? I’ve got just the ticket. I have a e-book titled, The 14-Day Romance Challenge. 25,000 women joined me for the challenge last February with amazing stories to tell! Put a smile on your hubby’s face! Click here to check it out.

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