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Moments with You Couples Devotional 2/27

  • 2014 Feb 27
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FEBRUARY 27

Believe It or Not

BY BARBARA RAINEY

Jesus answered them, "I told you, and you do not believe." - JOHN 10:25

We women are awfully fond of admitting that we need our husbands to affirm us and to express their love and appreciation of us through their words and actions. It's important for us to know—especially after children and age have done their demolition work on our bodies and our once-youthful appearance—that we are still desirable and lovely.But if we want to be able to rest in the security of our husbands' love, we need to do our part as well.

I remember the day, the time, the place and the details of one occasion when Dennis said to me—in the middle of a Saturday afternoon at home—"I love you, Barbara. I think you're wonderful."

I heard what he said. But the first thoughts that rushed through my mind were, He can't really mean that. I'm worn out by the constant demands of the kids. The house is a mess. I don't have a stitch of make-up on. I can't be all that much fun to be with on most days. So I said, "I don't know if I believe that or not."

"You don't have to believe me if you don't want to," he answered. "But it's true." It was like a light bulb clicking on. I don't know why it seemed more sure and certain to me at that moment than any other, but I realized he was right. It was my choice to believe him . . . or not. He couldn't give me the affirmation and love I needed if I wouldn't receive it! I couldn't expect him to affirm and value me if I dismissed his compliments as false.

So rather than listening to my emotions, I chose to believe the truth that he did in fact really love me, and I chose to do my part, which was to receive that love.

DISCUSS 
Wives, discuss your need for words of affirmation. Do you believe those words when your husband shares them with you? Why or why not?

PRAY
Wives, ask God to help you be a good receiver of your husband's love. 

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