FEBRUARY 4

The Same, Only Different

BY BARBARA RAINEY

Male and female created he them. GENESIS 1:27, KJV

Dennis and I received a cute email about the romantic differences between men and women. It began by asking, "How do you romance a woman?" Answer: "Wine her, dine her, call her, cuddle with her, surprise her, compliment her hair, shop with her, listen to her talk, buy flowers, hold her hand, write love letters, and be willing to go to the end of the earth and back again for her." I could go along with that.

But when it asked the same question the other way—"How do you romance a man?"—the answer was much more brief and to the point.

Answer: "Arrive naked. Bring food."

Ahhh . . . men.

But in a way, this blending of our romantic differences is similar to how you make a good salad dressing. Oil and vinegar are about as dissimilar as condiments get. The only thing they have in common is that they are liquids. Other than that, they're night and day. Oil is smooth; vinegar is sharp. Oil is thick; vinegar is thin. Left alone in the same bottle, the two will always migrate to opposite ends and remain there forever—unless shaken. Interestingly, however, even after the bottle has been shaken, the two ingredients retain their unique identities. And yet they complement each other in a savory unity. Together, they serve as a zesty finish to an otherwise bland mix of lettuces.

And so it is in marriage. No matter how many times a husband and wife come together, they always remain unique. He will always think like a man; she, like a woman. And although their innate design will never change, they can better understand each other and move to love one another with compassion, knowing that in so doing, they create a savory blend of romantic intrigue.

DISCUSS

What do you love about your romantic differences? Which ones can drive you crazy?

PRAY

Pray for patient understanding and for new ways of embracing and loving this wonderful person you married. 

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