Gifts and strengths
1 Cor 12:7, 18-19: "But to each one is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good. But now God has placed the members, each one of them, in the body, just as He desired. If they were all one member, where would the body be?" (NASU).
God designed each of us for a particular purpose and specifically gifted us to perform that purpose "for the common good". Yet, so often, we want to choose our own design for ourselves and our children. Unfortunately, that choice often revolves around qualities and characteristics that are honored and esteemed by the world's system. That's not the way God works. God is the architect and He knows how the pieces all fit together. Don't you think it would be more rewarding to submit to God's design and walk in His will, than to struggle to be something you were not designed to be? "All are not apostles, are they?" (1 Cor 12:29).
Try a spiritual gifts inventory with your family. Then work together on ways to use those gifts "for the common good."