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Crushed - She Seeks - Week of August 18

  • 2014 Aug 18
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Crushed
 
{an inspirational entry on being The One}
 
I gotta admit . . . I'm embarrassed about my history with guys. Not things I did with them, but things I did to get them!
 
When I liked a guy, I didn't just let it go or watch how things played out. No way! I did whatever it took to get his attention.
 
I'd "just so happen" to be by office when he got off work. Or we'd "run into each other" at the ball game. And I didn't act this way for just a week or so. Nope. The crush that crushed me lasted seven years.
 
Seven years of chasing someone who wasn't chasing me.
 
I sure wish someone had been up front with me—bold even. If a guy likes you he'll let you know. If he doesn't, either he's not into you or he has issues with confidence and courage.
 
Let me be the friend to you that I never had: if he doesn't like you, it is time to move on. Stop stalking his Facebook. Quit following his tweets. Bypass the Starbuck's where he works.
 
I wish I'd realized I looked desperate and obvious. And girl, I would love to spare you that, because the truth is, you're not desperate.
 
You are madly loved by the King of it all, perfectly and unconditionally. You don't need a guy to notice you in order to feel valued. There is One who notices you so much the Bible says He knows how many hairs are on your head!
 
If this guy you're crushing on doesn't have the courage or confidence to at least talk to you, that's something he'll need to work on his own ... not something you can give him.
 
You know what happened after I stopped chasing my crush? He grew up and realized he wanted the type of girl I'd matured into: one who loves the Lord and put Him as number one.
 
My crush pursued me, instead of me following him everywhere. This is the way God intended for it to be. Six weeks after we began dating we were engaged.
 
If you've found yourself maneuvering around his schedule, thinking about him a ton, and trying to talk to him—with no response on his part—ask yourself if this is the kind of guy you want to be with or attract.
 
Focus on you: act, think and speak the way you'd want any guy you date to. To attract this type of guy, you will have to be this type of girl.
 
Spend time in God's Word, allowing Jesus' challenges to change you. Live out characteristics such as love, confidence, and unselfishness. Start a revolution by bringing back things like being classy and respectable. A radical girl like that might just get the attention of a radical guy!
 
Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 Ministries' speaker and author of His Revolutionary Love; Jesus' Radical Pursuit of You. She loves the mountains, well-worn sweatshirts and anything that combines chocolate and peanut butter. This summer she's celebrating 25 years of marriage to the guy she's been crushing on since 6th grade.
 
© 2012 by Lynn Cowell. All rights reserved.


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