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Transformation Garden - June 4, 2010

  • 2010 Jun 04


"Abner said to David, ‘I will go and gather all Israel to my lord the king that they may make a league with you, and that you may reign over all that your heart desires.' So David sent Abner away in peace."
II Samuel 3: 21, Amplified Bible


"All Your Heart Desires"

"Man finds it hard to get what he wants, because he does not want the best; God finds it hard to give, because He would give the best, and man would not take it."
George Macdonald

If I had to share what the desire of my heart would be, what is it?

Have I asked my heavenly Father to reveal to me His desire for my life?

"A wise person will desire no more than she may get justly, use soberly, distribute cheerfully and leave contentedly."


"We desire  most what we ought not to have."
Publilius Syrus

The author Richard Whateley penned these thought-provoking words: "If all our wishes were gratified, most of our pleasures would be destroyed."

I had to spend some time reflecting on these words and how they applied to real life -- everyday. I can tell you this, I'm thankful in my own experience, everything I wished for wasn't given to me. Sometimes it seems the things we are surprised by, those unexpected joys, are the ones which not only give us the most pleasure, but also benefit our lives in the most surprising ways.

Not long ago, my father-in-law  told me that he and "Mama" had planned on having three children. Then a surprise came along -- it was my husband, Jim. As Papa told me, "Who would have known this youngest son would be the one who cared for us so much as time passed by."  When Jim was born, money was very tight in his family home. Having another mouth to feed was not on the top of Jim's parent's list -- but in the end, the blessings Jim has brought into his parents' lives is something they would not have wanted to miss out on.

Tucked away in II Samuel 3:21 are the words of Abner, the head of Saul's army, to David, "That you may reign over all your heart desires."

It seems Abner, who was furious at Saul's son Ishbosheth for spreading a nasty rumor about him and a woman, decided the best way to get revenge would be for him to convince all the tribes in Israel, who were following Ishbosheth, to change sides and follow the rulership of David who was in Hebron.

So off Abner went. One-by-one he convinced those who had followed the House of Saul to switch their allegiance to David.

Then, after personally delivering the good news to David, Abner proclaimed, "May you reign over all your heart desires." I'm going to add my own take to this passage and it comes from a statement it is likely you have heard before: "Be careful what you wish for."

As we will discover in the future, based on the desires and wants David had, especially when it came to desires of the flesh, he took Abner's words literally and if he saw, and he liked -- he took. Not only was this way of fulfilling his desires not for his benefit, it was wrong!

Part of the problem, when it came to the "desires of the heart" was that in David's life, authority and power combined with wealth made it possible for David to get just about anything he wanted.  He had the authority to take -- so he did.  He had the power to capture -- so he did. And he had the money to acquire -- so he did that, as well. The same thing happens in 2010.

It seems to me we haven't learned very much. While it could be that with so many media images flying in our faces all the time, flooding us with the message that if we only had this or that we would find ultimate happiness and fulfillment, it's even tougher to keep our focus on what the true fulfillment of our desires are -- desires that will make us satisfied in the end.

After David messed up his life, he came around to the clear knowledge that it wasn't some Abner in his life who gave him permission to reign anywhere that fulfilled the desires of his heart. Here's what David recognized as written in Psalm 51: 6 (Amplified Bible), "Behold, you desire truth in the inner being; make me therefore to know wisdom in my inmost heart."

Our Father's desire for all of us is that we be true to the purpose He has for each of our lives. Furthermore, our Father wants us to have His heavenly wisdom to infiltrate our lives so deeply we may recognize what His will is. For it is only in following God's purpose, that we find the desires of our hearts truly fulfilled. In the words of Scottish theologian Donald Baillie, "God is what we really desire."

"The main thing in this world is not being sure what God's will is, but seeking it sincerely, and following what we do understand of it. The only possible answer to the destiny of men (and women) is to seek without respite to fulfill God's purpose."
Paul Tournier


"O Lord, Thou greatest and most true Light, whence the light of the day doth spring! O Light, which dost lighten every (woman) that cometh into the world! O Thou Wisdom of the eternal Father, lighten my mind, that I may see only those things that please Thee, and may be blinded to all other things. Grant that I may walk in Thy ways, and that nothing else may be light and pleasant."
John Bradford

Your friend,
Dorothy Valcarcel, Author
When A Woman Meets Jesus
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