Start Your Marriage Right Every Morning
- Pam and Bill Farrel Authors
- 2011 27 Aug
Women’s Health published the results of a common-sense study that revealed that women who greeted their spouse “good morning” as they started their day had better days than those who didn’t. Of those couples who say good morning to each other, 94 percent rate their relationship as excellent.1 A positive greeting sets an upbeat tone for the entire day.
For my (Pam’s) new book, 52 Ways to Wow Your Husband, my friend Karen Porter shared her perky sunrise attitude:
George and I married forty-four years ago after a whirlwind engagement. I asked George to think of all the things that had happened in those forty-four years and tell me which one had wowed him. His answer: “Karen, the thing that pleases me most is that you wake up every day happy and cheerful and full of joy. It makes every day a day of wow.” Years ago I decided to stop being cranky and not to make him miserable. I chose joy instead. So every morning, I choose to wake up with a bright-eyed anticipation. In my book, I’ll Bring the Chocolate , I wrote, “Joyful living becomes a conscious decision; it means choosing joy… even when we may not feel like it.” The Bible says, “Rejoice, and again I say rejoice.”
How many ways can you think of to wow your man in the morning? Here’s a few G-rated ways to start your morning well:
• Wake him with a kiss and a smile
• Bring him coffee in bed or breakfast in bed
• Help him get out the door by assisting him in finding what he needs
• Send a text waking him with that familiar “Bing”
• Workout with him
• Go on a morning prayer walk
Find a morning that isn’t quite as rushed and do something special. If he is an early bird, get up and enjoy a sunrise with him. My sister-in-law Erin is a great role model for wives. My brother Bret had a heart attack at forty, mostly due to our family’s horrible DNA but also due to the rising responsibilities of his professional life and lowered activity rate.
Once he was out of the hospital, Erin began getting up at 5:00 a.m. each day to walk four miles with him. They walk and pray for each other. They have always had a strong marriage, but there is a spark and a sizzle in their love that few experience at midlife and beyond. It can be seen in their smiles, their glances, the way they pass and touch. Their love is truly inspiring, and I believe one secret is the way they begin their day.
This should be no surprise as God greets us each morning with hope. The book of Lamentations proclaims that God’s “compassions never fail. They are new every morning” (Lamentations 3:22-23). We reflect God’s love when we give compassion each morning to the man we love.
Pam and Bill Farrel are international speakers, bestselling authors of over 35 books including Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti. They are guest speakers at the Professional Women’s Fellowship/CEO Sept 15 breakfast, and Pam will be speaking on her book 52 Ways to Wow Your Husband on Sept 29 at San Diego First Assembly. For info: www.Love-Wise.com. Take the challenge, order 52 Ways to Wow Your Husband and make this his best year ever — put a smile on your husband’s face — every morning!
Laurie Puhn, “Love and Sex: The Secrets of Close Couples,” Women’s Health, Jan/Feb 2011, 106.