Help Your Tweener Be a Cosmic Girl, Not a Cosmo Girl
- Linda S. Mintle, Ph.D. Psychotherapist
- 2001 16 Aug
Cosmopolitan Girl, a cool new magazine for teens tells girls how to give an absolutely heavenly New Years Eve kiss. The guidelines are graphic and erotic.
An advertisement for a Maidenform bra reads, Inner beauty only goes so far. Cosmetic Surgery Magazine, newly launched in the fall of 1999, provides 98 pages of ways to improve your looks. Teens are now one of the fastest growing plastic surgery markets.
Whats the message to budding pubescent girls: outward appearance is everything; consider plastic surgery; and learn how to arouse a guy. These magazines are provocative and ignoble, offering graphic guidelines for French kissing and other inappropriate behaviors to tweeners.
The sexual content in magazines marketed to tweeners and young adolescents bombards them with graphic images that encourage sexual activity. At a time when tweens struggle to understand their sexual development and are undecided about sexual choices, the editors and writers of these magazines encourage readers to act out their impulses. They expose tweens to sexual messages prior to their emotional readiness to handle them.
Parents, take a look at the magazines marketed to your children. Read the articles and discuss the appropriateness of the sexual content. Sit with your 12 year old and ask if this is helping her develop self-control and an acceptable view of her body. Help your daughter understand the cultures obsession with beauty. Then, discuss Gods emphasis on the heart and character.
In an oversexed culture, its important to teach young girls balance between looking nice and obsessing on beauty. Being obsessed with appearance often causes girls to develop eating disorders. As a parent, counter these harmful cultural messages. Help your daughter see who she is in Christ - wonderfully made, created in His image, more valuable than the sparrows, etc.
Girls dont need to be Cosmo Girls. They need to be cosmic girls, mirrored after the image of the heavenly maker, God.