5 Dating Mistakes To Stop Making this Valentine’s Day
- Tuesday, February 04, 2014
With Valentine’s Day approaching, the topic of relationships is certainly on many minds.
As we reflect on the relationships of our past or the ones we’re engaging in the present, we can be faced with a bag of mixed emotions.
While some of us experience the joy of love and healthy relationships, many others are experiencing a lot of pain, heart-break and the emotional ups and downs that can be re-triggered by this specific “relationship-centered” holiday.
But no matter where you are in your pursuit of relationships, there is one thing I know to be true for all of us. When it comes to relationships in particular—you can’t do the same things in the same way and expect different results.
No matter how much you hope, pray and dream for good things in your relationships, for many of you, good things will only come when - by God’s grace - you learn to make better, wiser and healthier choices.
As you reflect on your relationships this Valentine’s Day season, here are some mistakes that you may need to acknowledge, and then take ownership of as you seek to engage in healthier relationships:
Stop Letting the Wrong People Into Your Life
One of the biggest relationship mistakes people make has less to do with what they do in a relationship, and more to do with who they choose to enter a relationship with.
We can spend so much time thinking about what we want in someone of the opposite sex without ever taking the time to think through what we don’t want—and what we won’t settle for. When it comes to finding love, there are some red flags that simply cannot be ignored for the prospect of a healthy relationship.
Think through the people you allowed into your life and ask yourself if they were the kind of people who built you up, or tore you down. Healthy relationships will always add more to your life than they take.
Don’t Allow Your Physical Relationship to Lead the Way
As Christians, it’s easy to get sick and tired of hearing the “waiting until marriage” rhetoric. But we’re not just talking about sex here.
When it comes to dating, it’s easy to allow the physical interactions of your relationship to take the lead before you know what happened. But time and time again, I hear from both married and unmarried couples alike about the harm that encompasses those who allow their physical relationship to lead the way.
There is certainly a time and place for physical affection in a dating relationship. But letting the physical lead the way will always skew your judgment, heighten your emotions and fool your concept of commitment. When the physical attributes of your relationship take control, they have the power to ruin a relationship. That’s something worth avoiding as you strive for healthy relationships.
Stop Believing that You Are Worth Less
There is so much truth to the concept that you will always attract the kind of relationship you believe you deserve. Maybe part of the problems you’ve had in your past is that you didn’t believe you are worth more. As you move into this New Year, take the time to consider what you are worth and how that plays into your relationship choices.
Don’t Avoid Talking to God About Your Relationships
It’s embarrassing how simple yet profound this statement is. Why we don’t take the time to talk to the Almighty God of the Universe who knows all things and can make all things happen is simply mind-boggling to me.
He knows what’s best for our lives, and he knows what we need to get us there. Why not go to him for wisdom, for hope and for healing? Why not seek him with our questions, our pain and our problems? There are many different ways you can pray for your relationships.
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