Dear Heartsick,
Have we not all been where you are at? It seems like when we decide to "get right" we expect the ones we have hurt to just "get right" right along with us, Oh' how we wish it could be that simple. I have been where you are at.At times I think I'm still there until the Lord reveals to me that I am a new creation in him. What I want to tell you is what I have had to learn myself, and that is to "Learn to love without expectations". Rejection is one of the hardest things I have had to expierience. But when you learn to love without expectations you begin to empower you soul like never before. That means you are going have to love her through this. Love her even if she doesn't show it back and know that until she is able to reciprocate that your heavenly father will be loving you in her place. It is hard but you can get through this. Love her, encourage her, praise her. Everytime you feel rejected, just say to yourself " Love without expectations"...it works.

My husband and I have gone through alot over the last couple of years. The biggest step in our healing process has been to devote our lives to the Lord and realize that we need Him in order to be successful at anything. We recently saw a movie called Fireproof that focuses on a couple contemplating divorce. It's very inspiring and one that I'm sure you both would enjoy. Make a special night for her. Make it all about her and enjoy the movie and your time together. Plan a sitter and everything in advance so she has no reason to say no. Enjoy the movie and don't give up on her. God will reward you both just as he has us. I'll pray for you.