Flood of Pornography Threatening Marriages, the Church

I have also tried watching it with him, but some of the images upset me too much, and then I really don't want to be touched in any sexual way by him. I think we have a healthy sex life, and it is very regular, but I find if we skip one day of sexual relations, he is up at 5 in the morning on teh computer. I wake up alone, with a sick feeling in my stomach. I feel as if I have done something wrong, and at the same time I am so angry at him for making me feel that way. I would really like to talk to someone about this. We go to church occasionally, but we don't have a personal relationship with the pastor, so I don't know where to turn.

I am confused and angered by my spouse's use of pornography. I have tried explaining to him how it makes me feel like I am not desireable, but he soothes me with sweet words and declarations of his love and dedication. He claims it is just something all men do, and there's no way he's going to stop this "harmless" interest, so I should just never ask about it, and not check up on his internet history. I can't help it. If he's home alone all day, and it appears he hasn't done a thing, I check the sites his visited, and see dozens of videos and pictures viewed. I tried to make a compromise: never download anything to our home computer where I (or the children) could see it, and never bring home a video or DVD. He has done both. I tried logging in to the sites he views to see what his interest is, but I find nothing healthy or erotic, only negative images. Is it possible to convince someone to cut off all access to porn, without seeming like a control-freak laying down an ultimatum?

I am struggling with this problem right now. I just found out that my husband of 4 years has been looking @ internet porn. When I confronted him, he reinsured me that that he would never cheat on me & that I was the only one for him. But that was not the issue.
Then last night I caught him on it again. I have not confronted him again, I’m scared!
When I search in the internet for solutions, they tell me just to accept in and move on. But I can’t accept it. I should have to!

Can anyone please give me some advice!!

I can totally relate to this artical. I am going through a divorce after 30 years of marriage. My husband started out with soft porn then asked me to watch also. We bought into the idea that it would help our sex life. After 15 years we graduated to hard core all the while going to church and living this double life. After two years of therapy with a christian therapist that my husband only saw 3 times and refused to go back I filed for divorce. He had several affairs and was asking me if he could have sex with a man.
Porn destroyed my life, my marriage and my family. I allowed it thinking that it would save my marriage since when I refused he would get mad. We lost our home, our business and our savings and I believe with all my heart that God took away what was most important to us because we would not heed his warnings.
I found out yesterday that my husband while still going to church and starting to serve in church has a profile on line to meet women for erotica. Sad Sad