Marrying Your 'Soul Mate': Does Such a Person Exist?

First of all, let's go back to the foundation of marriage, God intended for the two to be join together, and that they should be one. Now a days people think that marriage is something that they get in to and get out, so easily and there will be no pros and cons. Marriage is such a unique union that is very hard to explain, God designed it in such a perfect way, that if you first seek Him and all His rightousness, you will certainly enjoy your marriage and all that God intended for you.

I disagree with the assertion that soul mates do not exist. I consider my husband to be my soul mate and we believe that we are made for each other, not because we meet a set of arbitrary requirements that we thought up after watching romantic movies, but because God declared this to be so when we sought Him before we got married. This knowledge strengthens our resolve to preserve our marriage during treacherous times. Also, our parents are great examples of soul mates in our lives. My mother continues to speak of my Dad, who passed away a few years ago, as her soul mate because they were so tailored for and devoted to each other; and my husband's parents are so closely knit together that they seem like teenaged lovers sometimes. If indeed we give God full control of our lives, He is well able to lead us to the person who best compliments us. He knows exactly who He wants to help us fulfil His purpose for our lives and to produce a godly heritage, which is the most important thing.

I believe this article has missed the root of the problem in all the stories of broken relationships. This article has a certain world view like I am reading a secular magazine. We walk around and say we are Christians and we do the same things the world does and we say the same things the world says. I am that Christian. My marriage broken and who saved it but the Lord God himself. He used Men and Women with greater faith and Discipleship(Discipline) that we through the cross overcame the enemies attacks on our marriage. God is doing a new thing on this earth with his children that is not so new. Can this generation rise up and take hold of a new thing or shall we remain in the dessert of divorce and articles that question our choice of mates when bad times come and God wants us to grow. What God has put together let man not tear apart.

I do not believe this man is correct at all! I am the exact opposite of those women. I am the person who see's everything wrong with everyone and I pushed many men out of my life because I took a "logical path" and choose to see all their flaws. It is God that steps in and points to the person, not your logical mindset. The man that I am going to marry now is my soulmate! He is flawed and everyday I see something I don't like but that is because I always look through my logical mind first. When I look thru the heart God has given me for him I see the most perfect creation in the history of the world. He is my soulmate because I have chosen him to be my soulmate. I will want to leave him someday, for someone like me that is a given. But I won't because God chose him for me and I will make a promise to never leave him. So if you believe in soulmates go on and get that person but make sure you take that promise you are making to that peron seriously, then they really will be your soulmate

When I think of the "one", I can't help but think of Genesis 24, when Abraham sends out his servant to find a wife for his son Issac. The servant prays a specific prayer to find Issac's wife, and in verse 15, it says BEFORE he finished praying, Rebekah came out. It also says in verse 12 that the daughters of the townspeople were coming out to get water. Any girl would have probably been a good choice, but God provided Rebekah.

She did exactly what the servant had prayed for. In verse 26, the servant says that the Lord LED him on this journey to the house of his master's relatives. That's not coincidence, That's providence!!

I believe God gave me the one for me! I think the danger isn't in believe that only one exists for you, but in how we go about that, what we sacrifice to find that, and if we let it jeopardize our relationship with Christ in order to fulfill that desire

You know, I don't think there is anything wrong with having a soul mate mentality. I think that the problem comes when people think they know what is best and forget that in all reality God knows what is best for each and everyone one of us. It has always been a belief of mine that God has one person designed for me to share life with. Similar to how Eve was created specifically for Adam, I believe that God created a person specifically for me and vice versa. It is simply a matter of when God brings that person into my life and says go. I think the problems that people have in their marraiges have nothing to do with not being compatible. Do I think some people marry too hastily, yes, but I think that if God is the foundation of the relationship or there is a sturdy foundation established, two people can overcome obstacles that come up. I also feel it is important for couples not to get caught up in what they don't have, but to appreciate each other for who they are.

God. This means that God may call you to marry someone that's not easy to be married to. Like the example of the woman who married and her husband's passiveness drove her crazy. She needed to be filling her needs in Christ other than turning to another man (obviously she's human, but that still doesn't make her the victim.) Just look at Hosea. God called him to marry a prostitute who was unfaithful and even had children by other men (which by today's standards would not be considered a "Healthy" marriage), but he always took her back because God called him to her. That is the mentalitywe as christians need to have on marriage. Just look at who Christ is marrying; the church. We are anything but a healthy marriage! We cheat, lie, throw fits, and disrespect Him, but he still takes us back. Therefore, I think that we should not pick a mate based on "who's the healthiest" but on who God calls you to. Don't take God's job and try to play "matchmaker," He knows what He's doing.

Well, although this was a well-written article, I have to disagree that there isn't
'one person," I think we've just skewed the picture of " The one person." When people say "The one" all the definitions listed are what come to mind. "He understands me" "We just click so well" "He's just what I've been looking for" are what "The one" should be, right? Not Necessarily. Notice, that when we look for a mate in today's culture, we look for what is going to make US the happiest, who's going to be the easiest for US to live with, and so forth. This is a selfish lie that culture has instilled into Christians, that marriage is only plausible if it is easiest for ME. This is a wrong mentality that I wish to challenge on the grounds of biblical principle. First, marriage is about sacrificing yourself daily for the other person, not about finding whomever is the easiest for you to serve, or who's going to serve you the best. It's just like how Christians should be sacrificing themselves daily to