The Oasis Code

In Song of Solomon, all the “gardening” talk is code for sexual desire. Come up with a code word that let’s your mate know you have red hot desire for him/her. One wife puts on a red tank top; another asks, “Want to take a nap?” (We can’t use that one anymore as “Wanna take a nap" over 40 really means a NAP!) Our code comes from our book, Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti. There, we explain that men like to go to their favorite "boxes" to rest and recharge: the TV, the computer, the garage, the football field, the refrigerator -- and the bed. The "bed box" is a man’s favorite -- it is kind of like the free square on a Bingo card -- he can get there from every other square on his waffle. So our code word for intimacy? You guessed it: Bingo!  In our Outlook, we also use "Red Hot Monogamy" and make scheduled appointments marked: RHM.

It may seem simple, but to enjoy a little "RHM," create an oasis of time and a special romantic space. And ask your spouse, “Wanna play some 'bingo?'”

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Bill and Pam Farrel are relationship specialists, international speakers and authors of over 25 books including best selling Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti, and Red Hot Monogamy.  They have recently released a new marriage DVD series for Lifeway, and will be guest speakers for Festivals of Marriage this fall. To order Red Hot Monogamy, discover more about their DVD for couples or learn about their speaking schedule, go to: http://www.farrelcommunications.com/.