I can relate to the letter writer because I too suffer from issues of jealousy. It actually brought my second marriage to an end because my husband couldn't stand being accused of things that he didn't do.

In my first marriage, my husband did have an affair, so unfortunately there is a history. Even though I know it had nothing to do with me, it still haunts me and makes me feel insecure with men. My second husband loved me with all of his heart, but our marriage is over and I can't believe what I've lost - all because of jealousy.

I do agree with the advice about the boyfriend trying to make his partner feel better by not spending time alone with this co-worker. I think it's important for a partner to try to understand why the person feels the way they do, and put them at ease whenever possible. Sometimes all it takes is the statement "I love you and would never do anything to damage our relationship."

Jealousy is a hard thing to overcome and it can be difficult to understand if our jealousy is justified. Often times our jealousy can be due to an imbalance in the things we do in life, when someone we love doesn't know how to balance work with family, or create enough time for God in our lives. Or perhaps this imbalance lies within ourselves. Our site (www.faithbalance.com) discusses this in great detail, which might be a helpful venue for those dealing with jealousy issues. Great article!

~R

I am recently seperated due to my wife having an affair, I"m not sure what is right or wrong any more. I confronted her with the problem several different times but she would never admit to it and i finally caught her and i did not want my marriage to end. She accused me of being jealouse but i was praying that she would snap out of it and come to her senses. but now i"m facing paying alimony and alot of other stuff. I wish sometimes i would have let it go and gave it to God to take care of but i did"t and now i"m paying the consequences of a divorce.