Editor's Note: Do you need sound, Biblically-based advice on an issue in your marriage or family?  Dr. David will address questions from Crosswalk readers in his weekly column. Submit your question to him at TheRelationshipDoctor@gmail.com.

Well, you’ve responded. To recap, a woman wrote asking what to do about her feelings of jealousy in regards to her boyfriend’s relationship with a co-worker. While he was dishonest and secretive, he felt his girlfriend was over-reacting. While he denied cheating on her, he refused to have his freedom limited by her insecurity. I asked you to offer your vote—and you did. Big time! Here are a few responses:

A man who would put his relationship with a coworker ahead of the needs of his long time girlfriend certainly isn’t marriage material. If he is dishonest before marriage, it usually will only get worse later. She needs to run for the hills as fast and far as she can if he is unwilling to change immediately.

I agree. Their relationship, and one another’s feelings, must be a priority. Dishonesty now doesn’t bode well for the future of their relationship. Dishonesty in the smallest dose ruins a relationship.

Here’s another:

The statement "He won’t make any agreements that limit his freedom" speaks volumes about this young man's intent.  He is not truly committed to this relationship, therefore, she should seriously evaluate why she is willing to stay in a relationship with someone who refuses to do anything to place the relationship on a more secure footing.  I do not think a marriage with this man will bode well, as he seems to be serving only his own interests. 

Again, we’re on the same page. We must question the motivation and commitment of a man who won’t do everything under the sun to make his girlfriend trust and respect him. We also wonder what is going on with her. Perhaps she has made one small compromise after another, and soon she’s in over her head.

Another woman offers a strong opinion:

If the man is this situation is lying about going out to dinner with his "co worker," why does this woman feel he would tell her the truth about anything?  If his desire to go out alone with is person is strong enough to warrant lying, then he has something to hide.  What kind of message is this man sending to this other woman by going to dinner alone with her?  If he were open about it with his girlfriend and she was OK with it, that is one thing, but he does it behind her back and I would not be surprised to find the co worker is aware of this.  In my book...this is cheating.  You are out with another person of the opposite sex and you are lying about it.  PLUS why hasn't he proposed?  Every time I hear a woman talk about this, the true story is the guy is the one with the reservations about getting married not the girl.  Don't forget the old saying "why buy the cow, when you are getting the milk for free?"