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wolfycat
2/8/2008 5:20 PM
I strongly believe in premarital counseling.
Another point I'd like to make is: How can one expect for ourselves and our potential mates to have it all together...to have themselves fixed before the marriage vows? Honesty goes a long way in a relationship.
If it takes a lifetime to grow in The Lord once we are saved...then how can we expect any different as far as marriage is concerned?
To say everything, including ourselves, should have all of our issues fixed is a fairy tale.
If we are trying to enter into a second relationship we should all the more seek The Lord and get counseling with a Christian pastor ot counselor. We should figure out exactly why the previous marriage failed and own up to our part in it, ask forgiveness, and operate in humility.
Respectfully submitted,
wolfycat.
Another point I'd like to make is: How can one expect for ourselves and our potential mates to have it all together...to have themselves fixed before the marriage vows? Honesty goes a long way in a relationship.
If it takes a lifetime to grow in The Lord once we are saved...then how can we expect any different as far as marriage is concerned?
To say everything, including ourselves, should have all of our issues fixed is a fairy tale.
If we are trying to enter into a second relationship we should all the more seek The Lord and get counseling with a Christian pastor ot counselor. We should figure out exactly why the previous marriage failed and own up to our part in it, ask forgiveness, and operate in humility.
Respectfully submitted,
wolfycat.
P50116
2/8/2008 4:47 PM
Anyone who claims to have no baggage is lying, and anyone who expects a potential partner to have no baggage is fantasizing.
There is, however, a big difference between HAVING baggage, and being OWNED and DRIVEN by it.
There is, however, a big difference between HAVING baggage, and being OWNED and DRIVEN by it.
I agree with you that almost all of us bring SOME kind of emotional baggage into a relationship. Some much more than others, but if we only got married when we were completely healed from our issues or struggles, no one would EVER get married! Yes, there is no one who can 'fix' us except God, who is working to perfect all of us. How can we be moved from glory to glory, without experiencing trials, struggles & issues? If that were the case we would never learn, grow & mature into the type of Christians God wants us to be. It may be true that to let our pasts define who we are or to put unrealistic expectations on our mates to somehow be our 'knight in shining armor' or our savior will inevitably sabotage our happiness; however it can also be a wonderful opportunity for our spouses to be sensitive to our needs & perhaps give us a different perspective & insight on how to process our hurts or dissapointments. Bearing with one another & truly becoming 'one flesh'.