• “I don’t have time for spiritual things. We have more pressing issues right now.” Smaller concerns are pressing and urgent, but none is as important as developing spiritual intimacy. Even if your life is in shambles, the most important thing you can do is make room for God.   
• “I’m afraid God will expect more than we can do.” Maybe you’re afraid that God will force you to give up something you like and lead you down a painful path. Yes, giving yourselves to God often involves making hard choices regarding your activities and possessions. But remember that his purpose is to “give life in all its fullness” (John 10:10). And you can trust him to do that has he shapes you into a couple who lives close to him.
• “My spouse isn’t interested in spiritual matters.”  If your spouse is struggling with this whole area, pray for him or her. Share your own convictions if your spouse will listen, and then let God work in his or her heart. God will gradually open your spouse’s spiritual eyes as you obey the scriptural command to win them by a “gentle and quiet spirit” (1 Peter 3:4). Or God will work in your mate’s heart as you treat him or her “with understanding” (1 Peter 3:7). You can be God’s instrument in reaching your spouse. But you must let God do it in his good time.

If you’re in a marriage where you and your spouse are spiritually mismatched – don’t give up! We encourage everyone in an unequally yoked marriage to intercede on behalf of his or her spouse in prayer. Before you try to fix the situation, before you try to express what you think is wrong, before you step into any communication with a spouse who is struggling spiritually – Pray. Perhaps you sense that your spouse is doubting his or her faith or is deeply discouraged; perhaps you fear that the presence of sin is keeping your spouse from intimacy with Jesus Christ. You may not know if your spouse won’t communicate with you. He or she may not even know what’s triggering the problem. The best thing you can do is to pray.