your article was very touching, as my husband and I were married for 32 years. He was a minister for over the last 15 years and we also had a gospel group southern gospel. On september 29, 2006 he had to resign the church and left our marriage. He was having and affair with the woman in the group of whom she divorced her husband in July of the same year. They were having an affair for well over a year. He will not admit to any of this, he says that there is nothing wrong with having another realationship while he is still married. They live to together and are still singing gosple music. What is hard for me to believe most of all is that preachers do not check out groups that come in their church. That is how satan sneaks in, he is sneaky and slow. We have 2 grown children and our son has 3 children he does not see the girls one is 4 months old and he has not seen her. He hardly ever calls our children and that is the hardest part to understand, they are the innocent victims.

A great article, but what if you had this problem in the past (even for a short time after being married) and have seen tremendous victory and deliverance, but your wife never knew about the past? How do you tell your wife?

I find the article to have a lot to offer, it helped me to reconize some of the reflections and patterns I seen and felt with my own issues and also to let go and let GOD. I find the exemption of women being that of the sexual betrayer common but disturbing, do we not all suffer from these iniquities. I feel this article should not deem male or female but just people in general. I am a male whom has suffered from this iniquity and have been married with my wife for 22 years, this month is our 22nd anniversary. we can make it and make a difference for those around us, if we as GODS people pray together and stay together. I could use a lot of prayer and support , how about you. love......howlongfather