I believe this is a systemic problem among all ethnic lines. Not gender bashing (hostile comment directed at a specific group), I’m a male and at the present happily married to my wife of twenty six years. We had to work hard to get too this moment in our live, she was more critical and I was more analytical of our differences. We have done professorial Counseling and it’s working for us, you have to be willing to speak about what is troubling you. My wife seems to criticize all that I would try to do in our relationship; it seemed that I had no clue of what was truly going on with family and work responsibility. But, I would never express my feeling, which was something I was told never to do as a male. So, I would keep it to myself. I have sense learned that it will made you sick and it is unhealthy. I say to all males, speak up with clarity and be sensitive to how you address your wife with words. But, please speak up.