Finally, communicate with your pastor or counselor. They won’t know you aren’t getting what you need unless you tell them. They won’t know the extent to which you are struggling between appointments unless you relay that information. You are a team and teams need to communicate effectively with one another. Define the problems together, agree upon clear goals, map out strategies and set clear ending criteria.
Dr. Hawkins is the director of The Marriage Recovery Center
where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including When Pleasing Others Is Hurting You, Love Lost: Living Beyond a Broken Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. His newest books are titled The Relationship Doctor's Prescription for Healing a Hurting Relationship and The Relationship Doctor's Prescription for Living Beyond Guilt. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.