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No-Fault Divorce is an Institutionalized Evil

No-Fault Divorce is an Institutionalized Evil

Michael Craven

Author, Speaker, Founding Director of the Center for Christ & Culture

This past week, I awoke one evening and in almost Wilberforce fashion, the Lord seemed to set before me this "one great object": the abolition of no-fault divorce. Weird! The fact is, this legal practice has wrought untold human suffering and injustice since its establishment in 1969. It is an evil that exists in active opposition to the principles of God's kingdom. As Christians, we are commissioned to oppose what is evil in the advance of Christ's kingdom (see Luke 19:13). So the abolition of a policy that has systematically undermined our society's commitment to the divine plan for the family seems perfectly consistent with the admonition to "seek first the kingdom."

Throughout history, Christians have fought against countless social evils from slavery to child labor and these battles inevitably began with a campaign of sustained public persuasion that exposed the hidden evils to a public largely unaware. Similarly, no-fault divorce has become so commonplace that its evil is either obscured or ignored. But the availability of no-fault divorce has served to increase family dissolution at a rate greater than ever before in history; furthermore, it undermines the institution of marriage itself, perhaps more so than any other single factor in history. We would not be standing on the brink of same-sex marriage were it not for the corrosive effect upon marriage-as-an-institution that followed the divorce revolution.

Constitutional and family law attorney J. Shelby Sharpe says, "No-fault is national catastrophe. Anything which overturns the order or systems of things whereby families are destroyed and the whole of society adversely affected is by definition a catastrophe."

You may be surprised to learn that the initial efforts to advance no-fault divorce legislation were underwritten by Hugh Hefner through the Playboy Foundation, which financed an army of young lawyers working to advance these antifamily policies. Let's see…America's largest pornographer working to rewrite public policy related to the family? There's something seriously wrong with this picture! Alfred Kinsey also played an instrumental role in reducing these legal protections by falsely reporting that adultery was commonplace in most marriages. This reduced the stigma associated with adultery and ultimately served as the basis for eliminating all laws against adultery. Hefner and Kinsey both saw marriage as the final barrier to sexual freedom and thus determined to remove its inhibiting influence upon unrestrained sexual activity.

No-fault divorce is much more than just divorce; it is a legal tyranny that denies the fundamental right of due process to a defendant. Prior to no-fault divorce, the party seeking divorce (plaintiff) was required, by law, to demonstrate cause on the part of the other party (defendant) prior to dissolving the marriage, dividing the family's assets, and destroying the two-parent structure essential for children. These measures provided strong legal protections—primarily to women and children who might otherwise find themselves abandoned by husbands and fathers who simply sought "greener pastures." (You might think me overly hard on men here. Granted, both men and women can be guilty of abandoning marriages; however, statistically speaking, women and children are most often the victims.)

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davidjones80
10/17/2009 10:32 PM
I know it been only two months but I see my errors and faults and wish to reconcile with my wife. I pray that God will move on her heart and to continually move on mine. I love her and miss her dearly. She is apart of me, we have been married for 7 years and together for 9. We have no children together but desperately want kids with her. I disagree with divorce which brings me to this question, If a person has acknowledge fault and is working on himself to change for his good, how does he expose his true hearts intent to a wife that wants nothing to do with him. I just know how badly I messed up and wish so badly to apologize and make my marriage right again. I may never get the chance to do so, but I am trying to change for me and not for her. If she decides to open the door and give me a chance then I will be there ready to deliver for her and be the best godly husband that I can be. Please pray for my situation and hope everything works out in God’s Will not mine.
davidjones80
10/17/2009 10:30 PM
. I stated before that I was never physically
abusive to my wife but I was emotionally abusive to her. Neglect,
arguing, being content, and selfishness is all signs of emotional abuse that no woman should have to take. I decided to examine myself. I figure this would be one the hardest things I would have to do in this recovery process. I would have to be honest with myself. I made a list;
1. Jealousy
2. Pride
3. Control
4. Being Content
5. Anger
6. Manipulation
7. Honesty

I’m sure there are more but these really stuck out in my head.

After I sat down and wrote this, I pulled out my bible and prayed. I said, “God please help me to understand these words”. I also prayed for strength and control for my composure.

I read Psalm 21 and something really stuck out at me, Psalm 21:8-13

It read,
Your hand will find all your enemies; Your right hand will find those who hate You.
You shall make them as a fiery oven in the time of your anger;
The Lord shall swallow them up in His wrath, and the fire shall devour them.
Their offspring you shall destroy from the earth, and their descendants from among the sons of men.
For they intended evil against You; They devise a plot which they are not able to perform.
Therefore you will make them turn their back; You will make ready your arrows on Your string toward their faces.
Be exalted, O Lord, in Your own strength! We will sing and praise Your power.

When it talked about “Your enemies” I did not look at it as people, but as the 7 things I listed above. It said the Lord will find all your enemies and will swallow them up in his wrath and fire shall devour them. I’m guessing jealousy, pride, control, being content, anger, manipulation, and honesty can be spiritual enemies that can take my joy and ultimately my strength. I refuse to let satan take me down like that. I must continue to find Joy through Jesus Christ, He is my ultimate Strength.

I know it been only two months but I see m
davidjones80
10/17/2009 10:27 PM
My wife has filed for a no fault divorce from me, I never was physically abusive with her and I never cheated on
her. I know I cause emotional abuse in our marriage being that I was not always having the mind set of God and acting out in the flesh. We are both Christians, not your typical go to church Christians and call it a day, but heavily involved at church, worship leading, preaching, and doing outreaches kind of Christians. The breaking blow in our marriage was when I decided to pull out of this Christian Preschool that we were opening together due to financial reasons. I pulled the plug on a Tuesday and by the time I got home on Thursday she was gone. The Preschool was supposed to have open house on that Friday and open up the Monday after the weekend, but we had no students and financially we were broke. I crushed my wife’s dream and her vision. She wanted this preschool to work so badly and she told me that this was from God. We budgeted and planned for months and when it was all said in done we were broke, stressed, and emotionally distraught. Now I know that I was not the perfect godly husband at all times, I know that I have issues and that my flesh got the best of me in rough times, and I take full responsibility for my marriage going south, but I truly love my wife despite all my imperfections. When I received that divorce letter from her attorney I just completely shattered. Two days before God gave me a scripture verse as I laid in bed, Psalm 18:2. The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower. I clung to that verse even to this day. It’s been almost two months since she has left me, I don’t know where she is at, and I have no way to contact her. She is just out there and she wants nothing to do to me. Since that time I have examined myself and sought counsel with my Pastor and professional counseling. I stated before tha
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