I was the child of divorce. My mother left my father when I was about 2 years old. She could not afford to take care of my sister and me so you placed us in a Children's home where we stayed for a very long time (at least it felt like for a two old. I grew up with very strong abandonment issues plus a few other issued. I accepted Christ when I was 15 or 16 but had a very difficult time because I didn't know if I could trust him as a father. My biological father did not contact us until I was about 22 and my step-father was a good provider but there was no emotional support. I made a complete mess of my life for many years and now am suffering the consequences. I have learned to trust God even more now and he is turning my life around. He is truly the father I wish I had trusted many years ago but it is never too late.

My parents divorced after 21 years--and against my mother's wish. My father, who I love and loved dearly--remarried but my mother has remained single/divorced. Since then my father and stepmother have both passed away. Quite frankly, the mess of that marriage and those deaths have left my brother and me so wounded ... sometimes I wonder if my father had known the blows we would endure, would he have tried harder to make the marriage work.
Marriage is a covenant. The Word says it. The preacher reminds us in the wedding vows. Don't take this LIGHTLY. But too often we do. And those who become victims in the war are the children. I understand there're times when divorce is inevitable,even necessary. But I beg parents to think AHEAD to what pieces your children might be left to pick up. To remember that through Christ all things are held together and all things are possible. And for pity's sake NEVER speak ill of the other parent because when you do, you negate the existence of your child.