"I Believe in You!" The Power of Encouragement in Marriage

In regards to the post from loveofleather. I know it is very hard to be in that postition...My husband and I were both very far into debt and there were some other bad things going on in both of our lives. Our marraiage was falling apart. We seperated for a horrible couple of months and then we had one counseling appointment with a pastor. From that moment on we decided we had to stop our criticism. It has been very hard and it is a constant spiritual battle in each personal life. But,through our faithfulness to each other and to the Lord, God has blessed us in more ways than we can count. We are debt free and a team now. My hubby wants to start a business next summer. I am scared to tell you the truth. I dont want any debt. But,the most valuable piece of advice given to me was to just say, OK! With a smile on your face of course. Tell him you are scared but you want to support him. The peace of the Lord will flood your life because of your faithfulness in your role of marraige.

The article sounds great. But what if your husband is trying to start a business and get a big business loan and you are strapped financially, trying to have enough to pay bills and have no money left over for necessities after payday. He says everyone is in debt and you have to be in debt if you are in business. I on the other hand was a sinlge mother working two jobs for years and was out of debt and had money to tithe, pay bills and have spending money. Now I only get paid once a month and never have any money after paying our monthly payments and I cannot make him understand that I don't want to be in debt and don't think you have to be in debt to live. We do not see eye to eye and I understand he wants to provide for us and help us be able to build a house someday etc etc but I dont want to go about it the same way he does and it is very hard for me to encourage him when I don't agree. What is your advice?

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positive feedback is difficult is when you are met with criticism. How should this be handled?