While this article certainly contains good counsel, it leaves the reader wondering how letting go of the daughter's situation will bring them peace, and what about that precious granddaughter? I suspect those parents are enabling a relationship by financially supporting the daughter and granddaughter - when the support is withdrawn the real world may well come into focus for the daughter (though of course the tough love required for that move must be well understood before the support is withdrawn). These are important issues to include if this is to be truly useful advice.

The advice for the emotional infidelity discussion is right on and Christians need to know this is not a case for "turn the other cheek" as we are apt to imagine.

What is wrong with our world? Why is this so hard for people, men and women to see? I really think this Emotional Infidelity is becoming an epidemic. Everywhere I turn I see an article about it. Maybe I am just hypersensitive to it.

This certainly wasn't covered or addressed in my premarital counseling. I really believe that Christians and Non-Christians,married or not, need to be educated on this destructive matter. In my view it boils down to selfishness and ego and it goes on from there.

For those who aren't married and have relationships with married people, think about it... how would you feel if you were married and your spouse was doing what you are? Wouldn't you feel cheated? And for those who are married... if you truly love your spouse...do you think this relationship is really benefiting your marriage? or you?

The only other relationship we should be pursuing is one with the Lord. He'll boost your ego more than any other human. I challenge you.

A man nor a woman should ever have a friendship where the spouse is not a part of it. If he is sharing and talking this much--these are the things he OUGHT to be talking to his wife about. Be worried! My marriage is in shambles due to a friendship that got out of hand.He never meant to take it to far but they began to feel like soulmates. Like they understood each other and over time it took them to the place they should never go. My husband's lovers marriage is over and she keeps calling and waitng around for mine to implode. We are limping along wondering if we will make it. Their relationship is innappropriate inside a Christian marriage. Or any marriage for that matter.HE needs to choose his friend or his marriage and stick to it.

There *shouldn't* be a problem with a married man, or woman, having old friends of the opposite sex. Except when it's interfering with the marriage, as "he can talk to her longer than he can to me."

At that point, when in doubt, cut it out.

Dear Dr.David,
I agree very much with your advise! Of course the husband's behaviour is not acceptable. As long as this woman has a place in his life he won't put all efford into working on his marriage. I missed the suggestion though, that the wife should evaluate if there is a change needed in her behaviour as well, so that the man may long to talk to her more than "one minute".