I am going through a sepperation/ divorice to which I have been with for 19 years married for 16 years. I have 2 children a boy that is 15 years old and a daughter which is 17 years old. They are both great kids and I feel bad that they are going through this. My wifes name is Donna and I still Love her with all of my heart. I pray every day that god will come into her life and help her to see things through a spiritual view. I have been raised in church however in the past 10 years i quit going.As I set back and look at my life I have noticed that my fammily has suffered. My wife and I had grown apart and could not talk about our problems. 3 mounths ago things had gotten worse and she started staying away from me. going out and changing her lifestyle. I thought there was an affair going on. I started saying things hertfull talking about divorice and listening to others about what she might have been doing. Im going through a strugle in life and deeling with depression.this is helping

I just can't stop thinking about this. What about the Biblical mandate in one of the Epistles to give the man who was sinning sexually over to the devil for punishment (after which, after he repented, he was received again)? Does that Ten Commandments say not to commit adultery unless your wife doesn't meet all your needs -and, if you do - that she's equally responsible? Can we apply that to murder: The victim deserved it? Why is the church winking at adultery? Adultery, besides being a form of hatred, is practically a form of abuse. Regarding the forgiveness issue, adultery and abuse go hand-in-hand; for example, see refer to this site: http://www.abusehelpspiritual.com/help_abuse_victims.html

This article is a good example of how destructive mixing psychology into theology can be. The word adultery is not even emphasized. It's all about wounding and healing and other generational trends. Churches no longer support the victim, but blame both parties ("deeper problems," "problems in the marriage," and so on). That is NOT in the Bible. God hates divorce, specifically stated in Malachi. But He allows for it in two circumstances, as per the New Testament covenant: if an unbelieving spouse leaves a believing spouse because of his or her faith, and in the event of adultery. In no place - NONE - in the Bible does it EVER tell us to go into counseling with an adulterer. The church should be supporting the victims of adultery by helping them leave the person who has broken faith with them. An adulterer must divorce his spouse in his heart to commit this act, an act of hate. Why can't the church help the victim leave and forgive, rather than being forced into counseling and more pain?