It is very tempting to want to twist life to fit our expectations and hopes. Who of us is free from the desire to make life fit our hopes and dreams? Yet, we must allow much of life to unfold in the way God has designed it. We must also guard against expecting others to be whom we want them to be. Thomas Merton, famous theologian and mystical thinker, said these words: “The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image.” Let these words be something to guide you in your relationships.

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.