We are often told to have faith in God, which is certainly critical. Have you considered that you can also have faith in your mate? What do you suppose might happen if you believed the best about your mate, even if you didn’t see it displayed everyday? What if you looked for reasons to trust him/ her, believing they really did have your best intentions in mind? This simple act of faith has the power to transform how you interact with your mate. Try it!

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.