Alice had an internal struggle going on inside her; should she speak with her friend Julie or pretend she does not know what is transpiring?  

This was causing a good deal of stress in Alice. Confrontation was not something she considered her strength.  The battle inside was growing daily.

Alice knew she had to say something to Julie; she could not allow her friend to continue destructive behavior without speaking up.  

Alice believed with God’s help Julie could change her behavior.  She was willing to help in whatever way she could.  Alice examined her own life thoroughly before she confronted Julie. The choice for change would be Julie’s, but there would no longer be a secret in their relationship.

(Galatians 6:1) Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of agentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!