Many of us fall into the habit of complaining. Not only do we complain about things not going our way, but about family, mates, neighbors and even friends. We often complain because things are not the way we would like them, and yet we are less than clear in what we’ve shared with them. We often expect people to read our minds. Of course this is foolish. They cannot read our minds and we cannot expect them to. We cannot expect them to know what we value and what we would like from them. Consider making clearer statements to others about what you would like from them, and then practice deciding if you can tolerate where they are and what they are willing to give. 

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.