Colleen was a physically attractive woman and she knew it.  She learned she had power over men that resulted from her outward beauty. She saw this gift as a tool for her benefit.

In her marriage, it was not uncommon for Colleen to use sex as a manipulation tool to get whatever she wanted.  If she were upset with her husband, she would avoid him until he gave in to her particular demand.

Colleen couldn’t understand how her husband could have been attracted to another woman.  Colleen placed her relationship in danger, because of her selfish misuse of the most intimate gift in marriage.

(1 Corinthians 7:5) "Do not deprive one another [sexually] except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you." 


Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and TwitterDr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at TheRelationshipDoctor@gmail.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed!