I know a Christian couple who know their son is smoking pot and listening to ungodly music while they are not home. He is 24 years old. He has been through many jobs and schooling and yet he really does nothing but blame his parents for all his woes.

He moved out for a time and his mother was in TEARS bemoaning that her son was leaving her. He's TWENTY FOUR.. He's supposed to leave you!

This mother is a church leader's wife and prays constantly for her son's conversion. But why should he give his life to God? She's too busy being his 'savior' instead of letting him hit rock bottom so he will cry out to God...

And therein lies the problem....Not letting our kids be in a postion to cry out to the One Who should be upholding and correcting them.

You can't teach your kids 'nothing is impossible with God' and then complain that the world/life is too hard for them! It robs God of His authority over these children's lives!

Remember God gave them to you to train, NOT to keep!

this is a really good article. I am the adult daughter who is getting money from the first bank of mom. I don't want to, I want to work and earn my own money, but because I am unemployed, I am living with her. God did bless me with some money and so I can pay my own bills which is a step toward financial independence. she can't throw me out now, since I cannot support myself, so the prayer is to get employed, be self-supporting and break free--for her benefit and for my own.

My mom is a bailer outer. She bailed me out, my nephew, my sister and at one point, when i was in recovery,(seven years sober now), I told her to stop giving me money. I realized it was giving me an entitlement mentality which does me know good. those who are bailed out secretly feel guilty.

she isn't good at setting boundaries and I know deep down she resents bailing everyone out, but at the same time, she is afraid to stop for fear of abandonment.

God is the great Provider. That's the flow!