Jake had lost his wife to cancer less than a year ago. Sylvia had lost her husband to cancer a few years ago. They became friends through a project at work.
Sylvia wanted to show empathy to Jake, as she was further down the road of healing from loss than he was. They spent time talking about their relationships and shared happy moments and sad moments.
Sylvia spoke at great length of the conflict she and her husband had experienced in their marriage. She continued on about her loss and her grief. Sylvia was so eager to appear understanding, she didn’t give Jake a chance to share his experience.
(Philippians 2:4) Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life, 90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter. Dr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.