You may have worked on choosing your words carefully. I certainly hope so, as words have the power to breathe life or death into a relationship. But, what about your tone of voice? Are you aware that you can speak with a tone that conveys respect and value, or disrespect and disregard? You can speak in a condescending tone or in a gentle, kind tone that conveys honor. There is little value of speaking words of encouragement if your tone puts others on the defense. Be mindful of how you talk to others, knowing this will either ‘set the tone’ for a meaningful exchange or stop any possibility for meaningful interaction.
Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life, 90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter. Dr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.