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Get Serious About Being Happy

Valorie Burton

Author & Life Coach

 “…there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live.” — Ecclesiastes 3:12

What would make you happier? I know, I know. It’s a vague question, but think about it. What is within your control that would genuinely add to your level of happiness? Whatever it is, this week, I challenge you to do it. Why? Because happiness can literally prolong your life.

Amazingly, the effect of unhappiness on longevity is comparable to that of smoking, according to a recent analysis of 30 scientific studies on happiness. As a society, we all know by now that smoking is dangerous for your health, but have you ever considered that being unhappy could have health consequences? It’s time to take your happiness seriously!

For years, I thought of being happy as a fleeting pursuit—a temporary state of being. Spiritually speaking, I believed a more noble aim was to have joy and be content no matter my circumstances. Of course, those are important, too. But several years ago, I ran across this scripture written by the very wise King Solomon in the Book of Ecclesiastes:

“There is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil – this is the gift of God” (Ecclesiastes 3:12-13).

In other words, be happy in the everyday activities of life. Find satisfaction in your work. Help others. It is a divine gift to be happy when life is a routine. Abraham Lincoln once noted that, “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” If he was right, then happiness is a choice—an approach and an attitude that we choose to carry into our work, our relationships, and our lives.

As I listened to a presentation about happiness recently, given by noted sociologist Dr. Ruut Veenhoven, I was intrigued by his classification of four qualities of life that comprise overall happiness and well-being. Consider them (paraphrased below with my definitions and coaching questions) to help you determine the areas of your life in which you may have room to enhance your happiness and well-being:

  1. Livability
    “Livability” is about the environments in which you live, work and play. Does your environment nurture you or drain you? Do the circumstances in which you find yourself empower you to thrive or to merely survive? What would create a more livable and happier environment for you?
  2. Life Abilities
    Life abilities are your personal strengths, knowledge, preparation, flexibility and potential. They can be developed, explored and improved upon. Greater personal abilities often create more enjoyable opportunities. What talents and strengths are going underutilized in your life? What potential is going untapped?
  3. Meaning
    How is someone’s life better because they cross your path? We find the greatest meaning in life when we live the purpose for which we were divinely created. And that purpose must be good for something or someone more than you. This element of happiness is about serving, helping, and making a difference.
  4. Satisfaction
    This is about your overall satisfaction with your life. Are you content with where you are? If not, what shift is it time to make? Dissatisfaction can be a catalyst for change, as long as you are honest about where you are dissatisfied. What aspects of your life bring you joy?

My challenge to you this week:
Get serious about being happy! Choose a joyful attitude. Do something that brings a smile to your face—or to someone else’s.

Journaling assignment:
What would make you happier? How could you experience more happiness in the everyday activities of your life? Consider the four qualities of life:  livability, life abilities, meaning and satisfaction. In which area(s) do you feel fulfilled? In which area(s) do you see room to grow?

 

Taken from Rich Minds, Rich Rewards E-Newsletter.  Written and distributed by Inspire, Inc. Copyright (c) 2007 Valorie Burton. All rights reserved. Used with permission. www.valorieburton.com.

Valorie Burton, a life coach and speaker, is the author of Listen to Your Life, Rich Minds, Rich Rewards, What's Really Holding You Back?, and her latest, Why Not You?





Most Recent User Comments
kumbiya
11/4/2007 12:08 AM
I have struggled with the "feeling " of being happy for all of my adult life . and probably longer as well. I can honestly say that I have no clue what it is to be happy. I was"happy " when my son was born and when I got married and when I did certain things with our family . Yet , deep down , I wasn't really happy nor content. I have severe depression nas I struggle with that on a daily basis. I do take medication and it does help . However, it doesn't make me Happy. I try to be happy . I want to be happy . I just simply do not know how to be. I hear what I am suppose to do and I have tried to do it. i have been in thr=erapy for over 25 years . that tells you something ,doesn't i t? . so , why am I so miserable. ? and I am miserable . I have far too many problems in my life forit to matter anymore or to anyone. I am an adult child of 2 alcoholics . that , too , should tel you something. what do I do ? where do I start/ I have prayed my guts out and I have asked God to reveal to me gv
dmosc
10/28/2007 4:34 PM
Does your pastor's counsel match what scripture says about being unequally yoked? Trust God to take care of all of your needs; I say this in case you stay with your alcoholic, non-believing husband out of "practical" concerns. I will pray for you!
krazybucsfan17
10/18/2007 9:56 AM
I really am working on getting happy, but the only thing holding me back is my alcoholic husband. I would like to move on in my life, so that I am not constantly lied too, manipulated, emotionally and mentally abused. When that all happens I believe I can be happy. And I do feel God telling me it is okay now, as I have been dealing with this for over 18 years. But in some of the literature I am reading today, I don't know if it is the right decision to move on and truly find myself or to stay with an alcoholic who will stand on my front lawn (beer in hand) and scream "If there really is a God, strike me dead now". He is totally against realigion. I do pray for him and my congregation prays for him, but I don't see him changing. He did get sober for 7 years, but he still always lied to me. I am bi-polar and have anexiety disorder and his mental and emtional abuse really are going to push me over the edge. Any Suggestions?
J. Carmen
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