The Lost Girls

Thanks for the article. It brings up a couple of interesting points. I wanted to comment however on the mention of "women flooding into the workplace" and the "feminist movement" as being reasons for marriage demise and decrease. I think focusing on these skips an important point, namely the exchange of truth for tradition and also the male's form of leadership that fostered an environment for women desiring "freedom". At the most basic, when we understand the role that Christ plays in our lives and the call for a husband to love his wife as Christ has loved the church, then we understand that love translates into that which brings that woman into all God designed her to be. Instead, what has been pushed historically, not only in the Christian culture, but mainstream, is that the woman exists to support and propel the purpose of the man, with a very generic role of housewife/stay-at-home mom. There is a balance to be struck between the support of both husband and wife, both putti

Single Male late 20s, Christ following, Military, perspective: In my own life I've found that I am alone quite a bit and I have experienced that feeling inside of being alone, it is powerful and at times uncomfortable. I've had both success and failure in dealing with it. When I have succeeded it has been through prayer . . . ha ha, go figure right, no kidding prayer did in fact work despite some of the negative connotations surrounding the cliche. I've even experienced the feeling of loneliness and come out on the other side experiencing great joy and peace after praying with the sense that I wasn't alone at all (for obvious reasons if your a Bible reader and believer in it) and the powerful feeling of loneliness had completely subsided. Other times I completely forgot to pray and found myself dealing with that emotion. I think this is probably the same stuff that people our age have been dealing with since the beginning. I think it's one of the many things that drives us to our God.

Great article. I have a Christian daughter who is so precious. Sweetheart of a girl now 28+... can't find a christian guy who is ready to commit and move forward that she connects with.
I think it might be a product of our culture being driven by all things being "girl centered". Men really have no say in the relationship conversation because they don't know how, and it appears "unsafe" to them. Perception is reality. In my quest to find someone post-divorce I spent 10 yrs recovering and when it came to even sitting and talking to women... felt like I was always being "evaluated" rather than being accepted into friendships and connectedness. I eventually gave up. Then a blessing came my way with a lady who saw me not as a "meal ticket" but rather as a friend, companion ( kind of simple things here...), respected me and eventually, I allowed her into my emotional intimacy because she was "safe"... the connectedness started there.. now attending Pre-Marital Counseling. hmmmm

"Twilight Zone?" Try being a single christian man. In the single christian man twilight zone, some pastors think you are dangerous if you would like to meet women. Some think you need to be "shamed" if you are single. Some think you need to go through some other man in order to spend time with a lady...or that you are a problem if you have questions. Some of the women one meets are real dingleberries who think, say; that you are under a curse if you don't perform ritual giving, or who evaluate your life with God on things like whether you are in church every time the doors are open (not that they could explain the wording of the Apostle's Creed.) For single christian men who are wavering in their faith the resources offered to them are often anemic and not geared to real-world ideological or spiritual conflict. This particularly affects the younger.

All we are seeing with the disparity in #s is the chickens coming home to roost. We have yet to see how it will play out.

This was a thought-provoking article and a topic that really warrants discussion. I am happily married, but I remember what it was like being single, and I know many of my single girlfriends are going through what you are describing right now. Hopefully they can one day too find their Mr. Darcy in a kind, caring Christian guy. :)