He Said-She Said: Can Friends Who've Dated Be Friends Again?

I've been down that road and mine lead to engagement. Yes it can lead to things having a best friend that is not the same gender as you. But like for me it can lead to finding your mate. Her and I tried a few times but she just "couldn't see her self with me". It hurt but we both tried moving on but yet staying friends. I backed off and she didn't like it, it was then that we realized how much we really did care for each other and we started from there. Maybe giving him some room might make him realize how much he cares and he might need to be faced with the fact that it's not safe having a best friend that is guy. It can cause problems if you date another guy but yet have a best friend that is a guy because the guy you are dating wants to be the only guy. He may say it's ok but doesn't mean he is comfortable with your best friend being a male. Give it to God and pray. Seek Him in all your relationships

In the first place, it is unhealthy for any person to have a member of the opposite sex as their "best friend." Relationships such as that will always tend to veer towards the romantic and sexual. That is just the way we are wired. Granted, in these days of same sex marriage, it is entirely possible for relationships to form even between members of the same sex (though that is contrary to the will of God and is not pleasing to Him).

My advice to this lady would be to find female friends that she can form deep relationships with and to avoid forming deep friendships with male friends.

As for this man, I think he is bad news for her; he came into the relationship wanting to date one day and then within less than a week, he has already changed his mind.

This is indicative of deep instability and double-mindedness and it is for the best that this relationship wound up sooner than later. This lady should thank God for that.