I pray that God puts me and my helpmate together soon.

That's not just anyone, but as one woman aptly put it, she's looking for the man to whose rib she belongs.

I'm looking for my rib.

Thank you for bring this out. My choice is to be single also. I have been critized so badly because of the choice I made. I love my single life. I can spend quality time with God without no distractions. I have been fought because I don't have children. I was at one time married. It didn't work out. I took this time to heal myself and enjoy myself. I don't feel I have to have a mate to fullfill God's purpose. I love the single life. That works for me!!

Mann that was so encouraging mann. I was wondering if you could please email this article to me cos mann it was the bomb aye. Im from New Zealand and it hasn't been a year yet for me as a Christian. I was in a almost three year relationship before i got saved. It was a happy relationship and i didnt see anything wrong with it. However, all behind the smiles, it never really satisfied and i was lyning to my parents. When i did give my life i saw a greater purpose ahead of me. I wanted to seek God's kingdom more and more. I didnt know what to do. So i made the decision to end my relationship. It was the hardest decision ever but up until now i do not regret it one bit. Giving my life to god was the best and still is the best decision of my life. I thank Him for saving me. Thank for this article. Really encouraging. :)

WOW!!! I was just telling a friend last night why it is so difficult to find a mate and everything that you included in your article is nearly exactly what I said to him. Of course, he thinks I'm pretty crazy and will most likely, never find the person I am looking for based on Biblical "parameters." I don't agree with him, but I know she won't come easily. I refuse to compromise on God's word, especially regarding this most important institution. I have known so many Christian women who are nowhere near "pulling in the same direction and with at least similar spiritual vigor" as I am trying to live (I'm sure women feel the same way about some men). I've been a Christian for over thirty years, been in ministry almost as long, have a Masters of Theology, and have been a Singles Pastor...some say that I'm "too heavenly minded to be any earthly good," but I just don't agree with sentiment like this. I don't believe this is possible! I wish I were more heavenly minded!! Thank you Hudson.

Excellent article!
Could not have said it better myself.

Thank you so much. I am a 29 single male and constantly hear the question, "Why aren't you married yet?" It is truly refreshing to hear that there are others who aren't not willing to compromise the promises of Jesus for something convenient.

An exuberant and thankful "Amen!" As well-articulated a perspective on the topic of Christian Singlehood as I've read. Married Christians are often too flippant - even if unintentionally - to single Christians, dating, marriage, etc., and that has long confused me. To those who are truly in love, I ask in return, "If it were 'that simple', then why aren't you daily struggling with adultery with every good Christian woman you meet and know?" Because at some core level, there's something special and unique to you about the person you love than there is about all the other good Christian people who are worthy of a good mate. I'm not advocating "the one" theory, necessarily, but saying that you shouldn't marry unless you're truly in love. If more Christians took this tact (and if the Christian culture supported that paradigm), we wouldn't have similar divorce rates as non-believers.

Thank you for this article! As a single, your sentiments are mine exactly. It's so nice to hear someone else say it!