For years I was happy being single and thought that that's what God wanted.

Then I surrendered 100% to God in May, and God has changed my life entirely upside down in that regard. He was waiting for me to surrender and become close to Him. He has a plan for me to be a help meet to someone I've been friends with for years and never looked at in that way . . . until now.

But, also consider that my friend is not quite ready for it all yet, either. God may be waiting to show you the one He has created for you because that one is still growing closer to God himself.

Be patient and have faith. Grow as close to God as you possible can. You will never be disappointed if you are walking hand-in-hand with Him.

Yes, there is something wrong with singles, at least with those who want to get married--according to contemporary evangelicalism. They're just somehow not happy with Jesus as they ought to be. God forbid that young people decide to get married outside of God's "perfect will"!

When will single Christians realize that they are free to marry other Christians, within God's moral boundaries (i.e. no unbeliever, and no divorcée)? There are no hoops to jump through, no unnecessary navel-gazing required, no "waiting on the Lord" to do so. Granted, do not rush into these things lightly.

I just love the positive spin put on singleness by many evangelicals. It's just like the spin the media uses on the lack of jobs. It's not unemployment; it's "funemployment." "Your singleness is a gift," they say. How does singleness glorify God when the vast majority of singles don't do anything really different from the world except go to church two or three times a week?

I wholeheartedly agreed with the first half of this article. If you're still single well past the time you expected to be married, that doesn't necessarily mean there is something critically wrong with you. What I disagree with is what to do about it. Perhaps the reason you're still single is because you have been sitting around waiting for God to bring you the perfect man. But when was the last time you went out on a date? How is God going to bring you that guy if you're not putting yourself out there? Is that how you went about finding a job - you sat at home waiting for God to send our your resumes and ring your phone? Why would you put less energy into the second most important decision of your life than you did into your job? Sitting around waiting for God is often just an excuse for social laziness. And there is nothing unbiblical about going out and meeting people.

Great article, I totally agree with you. It is only a matter of time before God will allow for you to meet your future wife/husband. We need to remember that love is patient, and despite what we may think at any one particular moment, God is still in control of our lives. He knows more than we do, when we'll be ready for this kind of commitment. There is no need to hurry!

I really enjoyed this article!